my husband has a son from a previouse relationship(who is 18 months old) and his best friends oldest sister , i have 3 from before, we have a 14 month old and im due next month. he has a court order to do dna testing for a baby that will be 1 next month, we have been together 2 yrs now. he says its not his but i think it could be. the sad thing is its his best friends middle sister whos seeking dna. making not only his boys (if its his) brothers but first cousins as well. do i just say screw it and leave him or try to suck up my pride as im a stay at home mom to going on 5 and he supports us all. so confused and depressed.
2006-10-05 06:55:33 · 14 answers · asked by evilella 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not on any assistance and i am going to college for bussiness administration. getting a job isnt a problem for me. he pays for his son and we do love each other very much and i want to give him the benifit of the doubt that its not his as this woman is and always has been out to tear us apart from day one. i just dont know if its a stunt to break us up or not. if you have something insulting to say please dont post it. thank you
2006-10-05 08:06:23 · update #1
wow i was just gonna say hello and ask where i can find a lady like u from the answer u gave to my question, but to answer yours i would say to just wait for the results of the test and remember the kids man, i got two girls 9 and 6, and they are what it is all about! keep ya head up!!
2006-10-06 19:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by thesilkysmoove 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry to hear of your difficult times. I think that you have to think about four key things: 1.) Do you love him? 2.) Does he love you? 3.) Does he respect you and other people? 4.) Does he love your children? Depending on the answers to these questions, that is how you should make your decision. But you also might want to consider professional marital counseling....Good luck to you....I'll be praying for you. I am studying to be a rehabilitation counselor so relationships aren't really my area of expertise so getting a lawyer might be the best for you....your safety and the safety of your children are the most important things in this scenario
2006-10-05 07:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You leave him and get a job after you have the baby.Get child support from the kids dads and if you need the help get on HUD and welfare.Do not stay in a bad relationship just because your scared to be out on your own.My mom's best friend had 4 and she did it on her own and so did my grandma.You have only one life to live!Dont waste it on him.
2006-10-05 07:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A freedom or a precise is a state granted permission to do something interior a particular means that they later set with proceedings. it really is a shaggy dog tale. All of politics is a shaggy dog tale. Telling someone they're allowed to be loose isn't authentic freedom and is even worse being a complete perversion of what a precise or freedom quite is.
2016-10-16 03:39:00 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the situation. You should never have hooked up with this loser who can't control his member or use protection. He's immature. I just hope he can support all of these kids when you leave hi, because eventually you have to or face a lifetime of his affairs and illegitamite children. Talk to a lawyer.
2006-10-05 06:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, people like you should not have children. Bring them into your phucked up pitiful existence and wind up sucking off the system and your relatives. get your tubes tied or go on the Norplant® and don't get in any relationships until your children are grown and out of the house.
2006-10-05 07:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and most people answering have convicted him before the evidence is in.
Wait for the results before making any decisions.
If he did cheat, and is now lying, then divorce, and get child-support for all of your kids that are also his.
If you aren't getting support from the other children's father(s?) seek that, too.
2006-10-05 09:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think of your children first. Do what is in their best interest. I don't know that this is the most healthy situation to have children in, with them being possibly first cousins and siblings to each other.
2006-10-05 07:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man telling you this. Get out now. Leave and never think twice about him. Take over your life. Also get your tubes tied. Life is about what you can amake of it. Not putting up with some idiot.
2006-10-05 07:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Clyde R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to get a job and kick that punk to the curb no mans worth that kind of trouble!
2006-10-05 07:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋