I have been dating a guy on and off for over a year, everytime we break up its has something to do with other girls ( not cheating) he did a bunch of research online and determined he has commitment issues because of his past with his mom. We currently are off again and he told me he didn't want to jump back into a relationship because he is scared to hurt me due to his commitment issues. How do i convince him that i want to be with him and am willing to help him through everything? How do I get him back?
2006-10-05 06:52:15 · 5 answers · asked by ashley_lea15 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he can't commit to you then you should try just let him go
2006-10-05 07:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by Scooby_doo06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is the same way as yours, only difference is it was his dad instead of his mom. But here is what I told my boyfriend. "If you did like the way it was when you was growing up, when you became an adult, it is up to you to make it the way you want it". He is using his mom excuse the way my boyfriend uses his dad for an excuse. Truth be known...they are using that as an excuse and don't want to change. I tried helping mine with his problem in every way that I could possible think of and he still continued to do what he was doing......I loved him very much much but enough was enough. After working with him for over 4 years and trying to help him, I gave up and left him for good. You can't help someone that doesn't want help. He has got to learn to help him self before you can help him or no matter what you do or say will all be for nothing. I know exactly what you are going threw, been there done that. If mine ever does decide that he wants to get help and change his ways, then I will think about going back to him. It is more like the old saying, "they want their cake and eat it to" and it don't work that way.
2006-10-05 07:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you have to cope with him during ti=his and respect that he has the decency to not bring you down by behaving unbecoming of your relationship while having his commitment issues. However, don't invest too much of yourself while you try to help him from a friendly stand point it may cause you regret if it never works out in your favor and you will always think "I missed out on the possibilities of a better man and relationship"! Good Luck!
2006-10-05 06:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no no no girl i went through this and even had his kid although i could never prove he cheated i just knew an after two long years i had to end it for good. i know its hard but sorry to say it will not be a successful relationship my mother went through it to
2006-10-05 06:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by Dakotah D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
His only commitment issue is with YOU. He doesn't love you or want to be with you, and is too much of a homo to come out and say it. Move on and leave the momma's boy behind. You don't want him back
2006-10-05 06:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋