We are together for 4 years and have a wedding in plans in 4 months.
2006-10-05 06:42:19 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just tell him - stop procrastinating - you're going to hurt him badly so get it over with.
JUST TELL HIM!
FP
2006-10-05 06:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do it as soon as possible. When did you figure all this out? If it's been a while you really let it go too far! Chances are, he'll hate you no matter how you tell him, so just be honest and don't drag it out at all, why prolong the agony? Call a friend ahead of time though, just in case you need support during the break up(someone to call in case it turns ugly). Do you live together? If you do, think of how you're going to get your stuff out of there, and where you can bring it. If you really want out, don't fight over a house or apartment, it only makes things worse. Maybe you'll be lucky and he'll just go away quietly.
These things happen, and at least you know better than to go any farther. Imagine if you keot quiet and went ahead and got married!?! Some people do! Good luck and hey, there's lots more men out there!
2006-10-05 13:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by bigclaire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go thru with d wedding if u feel u don't love him anymore, but why wait till now to fall out of love? it's very cruel but somehow not ur fault. anyway the sooner u tell him d better for him so he can move on. i am sure u have a distraction somewhere, but know that d other person may not be as good as u fiance at the long run. good luck.
2006-10-05 13:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by gal-next-dr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure that is what you want, you need to sit him down and gently explain that the relationship is no longer working for you and that you do not want to make a mistake for both of you. He will not like it, but you are saving you both heartache in the long run. It would be much worse to go through a divorce later. Especially if there are kids. And be firm. Do not waffle if he tries to talk you into staying. Make up your mind and stick to it. Don't let guilt make you stay just because you feel bad that you are hurting him. He will hurt worse the longer you wait. You would be doing the least selfish thing to end it now, gently.
2006-10-05 13:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by mizzofficer2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first, realize that there is no easy way to do this. You're going to hurt him, he's going to be sad AND pissed, you're going to upset your family, the people you invited, bla bla bla. This is huge. BUT! Don't let that detour you.. it is soooo important to get out now before you get married if you really aren't in love anymore. But because this is such a big deal with the upcoming wedding and all, you better be absolutely sure you aren't in love. He probably will never take you back, this isn't a normal break-up, this is a "calling off the wedding" break up. Please do this in person, it's soo messed up otherwise. Just sit him down and explain to him how you really feel. Not in love, bla bla bla. It'll hurt, but it's something you gotta do. Otherwise you're keeping you and him from finding somebody you really do love and marrying them. Marriage is a life long thing, and if you aren't sure, then DON'T!
2006-10-05 13:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by i rock! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two ways. The relatively easy way - for your conscience - is to try to manufacture an argument and use that to split up.....but it doesn't always work out the way you hope. The other way is to just sit him down and explain exactly the way things stand. He'll probably be upset, but he should realise that you're not the right person for him and come to terms with it. The longer you let it go on the worse it will be.
2006-10-05 13:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him right away so that way he isnt spending all this money and then you tell like a week before the wedding that you dont want to be with him. i would do it now so that way it is better for both of you and he wont be hurt as bad.
2006-10-05 13:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by samantha g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd have to define separtate. Do you mean stop seeing each other and call off the wedding, or do you mean date other people while still seeing him?
Your only option is to be honest. If you're old enough to accept the engagement ring, you're old enough to speak up and call it off. Sooner rather than later.
2006-10-05 13:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and always tell the truth. Be honest with him and yourself. The sooner the better. Your intuition should guide you in how to do it. You know your situation better than anyone else, so trust yourself. Be the kind, considerate, and caring person you are, and everything else will take care of itself. Blessings to you on your journey.
2006-10-05 13:49:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you tell your fiance TODAY! What are you waiting for? The invites are going out soon so you better get on the ball.
2006-10-05 13:48:18 · answer #10 · answered by WildMtHoney65 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way to do it, I suggest just sitting him down and being honest. It will be difficult at first but worth it in the end. I have no regrets about breaking mine off.
2006-10-05 13:46:59 · answer #11 · answered by oreocrumbles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋