when i was going on my 1st date with my now boyfriend ( we have been togethor for 8 yrs now ) my aunt that raised me, took one look at him out the window and said to me " your going out with that? so ever since then i snuck around, well now that i live with him, and she has never met him, talks **** to me as to why she has never met my boyfriend?! i mean with an attitude like hers , why would i want to bring him around to that ? so lately ived been thinking, maybe i should introduce them and hopefully she wont be a ***** to him , what have you done to get your mom or who ever raised you to like your boyfriend or at least be civil with him?
2006-10-05 06:35:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husbands mother and I have never gotten along. We still don't shes a real ***** and there is nothing you can do about some people. Life is what you have to make it and you have to make your self happy.Some people might come around and some people don't but that is their chose.We have been married for seven years and have three girls and are very happy and she is not in their lives but she is the one missing out. Live for you.You must love this guy or you wouldn't be with him. Tell her don't get emotion or angry with her over over him. She might surprise you.
2006-10-05 06:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey , family is the best . I have been in the same relationship since 9th grade and my WHOLE family disapproves of my boyfriend . When my mom passed away they tried to hold it against me . Sadly they might not ever like him but I have learned to not care . I still make myself present at all family functions and he comes with , no matter how much snickering I can hear behind us . I keep my head high and my voice higher , if they say something negative I let them have it , but in a nice way . I even introduce him as my future husband just to see the expressions on thier face . Hopefully they will get along but if not - oh well . Make it clear that this is the person you want to be with and if they dont like it , though **** .
2006-10-05 06:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, when I was younger I dated a guy that no one in my family approved of. They never met him personally, but they were very judgmental. I dated him regardless of what they said. I stood up for him all the time. If this guy were willing to stand up for you and take care of you, then you should do the same for him. You should have your aunt meet him. I brought my boyfriend home and made them meet him, they liked him alot and still are friends with him. We are no longer together, but are friends. You will find that when you force ignorant people to face their demons, they usually end up apologizing later. Good luck to you.
2006-10-05 07:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your aunt has poor manners and you don't need to sneak around her or be careful with her feelings--she has none. To say that in front of him was unfeeling, unkind, and uncooth.
2006-10-05 06:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your an adult tell her you dont appreciate her "words of wisdom". i told my mom its not her life and im happy so be happy for me. i dont need her telling me whats right and wrong as i am my own person and i need to learn on my own be it a mistake or not.u
2006-10-05 06:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depend on ur bf,if he never say hello first to ur aunt, ofcos ur aunt wont say hello to him that younger than her.we need to show our respect to elder. hope ur aunt will change her mind bt ur bf
2006-10-05 06:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why.
2006-10-05 06:38:35 · answer #7 · answered by Do What 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋