Ok so I was wondering does it matter to guys if after u have a child and after you have saggy boobs I mean does it turn u guys off & do we feel any different u know sex wise. I'm afraid of not being attractive anymore my boobs are saggy there not full like they use to be & I have stretch marks all over my stomach & I'm afraid my coochie is all stretched out & doesn't feel the same I haven't had any complants from my fiance but I want to know how other men feel about this from their experience.
2006-10-05 06:21:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Happens to everybody. It's only as important as you make it. If any guy can't deal, that's his problem.
2006-10-05 06:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you will find that guys that have been married with children (or at least have been with a woman that has had children before) will be more accepting of your condition than a younger man with little or no experience with the after effects of childbirth.
You will want to find a more mature man that is able to accept that a woman's body goes through quite a lot during birth and that it takes time for it to get back into shape.
In the meantime, consider aerobics classes to help you get back into shape if it bothers you. It can boost your self-esteem as well. And who knows? You may even meet the guy of your dreams in the gym where the classes are held or even in the class itself!
Good luck!
2006-10-05 06:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Hunter J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nikki, I would rather advice you to stop bothering yourself over a problem that you're just creating from your mind now. To tell you the truth, if you're very sincere when you said that "you haven't had any complaints from your fiance". So, who do you want to please and satisfy either in or outside bed - your fiance or the rest of us guys here? The point remains that he loves you the way you're and he's NOT complaining. I can assure you that he is NOT likely to complain even in the future. So, please brace yourself up and continue to satisfy him without giving yourself any psychological problem. You know that sex, being an outlet of emotions, requires total concentration and commitment, if you're really aiming at a rewarding and fulfilled encounter. Concentrate and be determined to live a happy life and also to have fulfilling, rewarding and creative sexual relationship with your guy - saggy booobs or not. That's all I have for you for now. Cheers and good luck.
2006-10-05 06:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) I don't know if you have the money or not but just get a "lift" and you will feel better about your breasts (your appearance).
2) You are going to get ALL kinds of answers but the ONLY answer that should matter should come from you (love yourself) and your fiance. He MAY find you sexier if you "tone-up" but if he TRULY loves you and you have a good sex life with him he will not care.
3) If this really bothers YOU, then get in shape. Eat healthy, work out and whatever you cannot fix on your own, THEN see a plastic surgeon.
4) Sure, us guys like firm beautiful breasts but more important is the woman "behind" those breasts. If he truly loves you, don't worry about it. If it bothers YOU, then do something about it.
2006-10-05 06:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by nowhere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wives and their husbands or partners, having had children or not, both should try to keep themselves fit and attracted to each other. We know that as we age it becomes more difficult. I also know that a lot of women use having a child as an excuse to having kept many pounds that they did not carry before. I am sure to a lot of men this could be a turn-off. Also men don't realize what a huge pot belly really looks like to others. It looks like they are having a kid as well! Work together in this respect and enjoy life with your family.
2006-10-05 07:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by busyfingers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman tend to be a bit slacker after birth but pelvis excercises help to tighten you back up.
As for stretch marks and a saggy belly,most MEN wouldnt worry about such trivial things.Believe it or not its not always about looks that make you attractive.
2006-10-05 06:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well here is how I see it if the child is mine than hell no it was partially me who is responsible for the way the females body has changed and his love should transcend all that and the man shouldn't be a jacka**.But if the kid wasn't mine than well let's put it this way who wants to rent a house you know some other guy has f***ed up.Sorry I want a new house broke in by ME!
2006-10-05 06:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by sjwest74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter to men ,trust me as your boobs are sagging so are our butts, stretch marks are just like wrinkles people get them, some have them more than others but in the end they have them, and as far as your coochie goes, remember it is not the size of the ship but the motion of the ocean, it is supposed to stretch to accomadate different sizes. hope i have helped you some
2006-10-05 06:33:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things U can do to minimise the adverse effects that child bearing has had on your body (diet, ewxcersise...special creams and lotions for the stretch marks) But do it for you not for him..And if he really loves you you are still as attractive to him as you were before.
2006-10-05 06:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things like this can be prevented or delayed by excercise. Excercise is the solution to every thing, Not all men would be put of by women your situation. But I won't say that no man would be put off. It all depends upon if your man is a jerk or not.
2006-10-05 06:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good actually if u feel approximately it, from the begining of time, Man has continuously neeeded to furnish for his spouse/household, So Yes he had to be in contraol and needes a spouse to besides that. Today 2008 the arena has modified, The approach I appear at it, If you desire supply me an exapmle of the problem you've got.
2016-08-29 07:27:35 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋