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My husband and I have very little in common. He is happy to spend every minute of his waking hours with his guitar. In the weekend, I want to go places (shopping, exhibit, fair, seminar, events, festival, zoo, swapmeet...) just for fun, information, entertainment... He just want to sit at home. I feel I have wasted my life with this guy.

I have gone out shopping alone (have to run errands and buy stuff). Should I do the rest by myself and leave him behind? How would he feel? It is not very fun to go out alone but it had been 5 years like this. Should I "move on" with my life and find a weekend partner?

Any one have the same problem? Can we go out together? I am in Los Angeles county.

2006-10-05 06:20:00 · 17 answers · asked by chanella90012 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

17 answers

Find a friend that can go with you.

Why are women marry men that they kinda love. Stop settling and marry the guy your actually happy with, meaning 100% not 76% or 99%.

2006-10-05 06:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Melia 4 · 0 0

this is good for you to have your own life separate from your marriage. there is a reason why you got together, and it seems at the time that his differences did not borther you. yes, go out, have fun but remember you are married. if you want to take that additional step of getting pleasure outside the marriage, think every careful about what you can lose in the process. making decisions wiithout thinking are wrong and you might get double hurt at the end.
remember that what comes around goes around. if you still feel like the marriage is on the rocks, try marriage counseling. also try doing things with him he like, since he likes music, go to a concert together.
if nothing else works, then separated. because doing (sexual things within a marriage, is dangerous, ) doing it when separated the giult conscience is not tht bad.

2006-10-05 13:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0 0

Well ifyou feel like you are actually wasting your time then yes i would say its time to move on. There are so many guys out there and you could find one that loves going out to fairs and zoos and exhibits just as much as you do and you wont have to do things by yourself all the time. Give it a try if you aare unhappy right now

2006-10-05 13:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by rockerchick0727 3 · 0 0

Well, different story but I could not get my husband to agree plans to take hols or go out evenings etc (too busy with work, ah ah). Found it really difficult to cope with (not my view of life together).
Took me a while (many years) but now I just make my plans and "ya, sure, if you want to join, that's ok". Then he comes when he wants, more often then I would have thought. And if I end up on my own, that's quite ok in fact.
Can't go out with you, I live in Europe!

2006-10-05 13:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 4 · 0 0

I've been wondering the same things, except for the wasted life part. I don't live in L.A. county though. Sorry. :) But I think if you start going out more, he'll join you more...or you'll learn to value alone time. Good luck.

2006-10-05 13:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0 0

"My husband and I have very little in common." - Question, did you realize this b4 or after you guys tied the knot? And if you feel you don't have much in common you guys should just get divorced. Word of advice to you, since you feel you guys dont have much in common, DON'T try and change him to MAKE you guys have much in common. You will be setting yourself up! I think y'all are headed for the divorce court. Hate to sound harsh, but its the truth.

2006-10-05 13:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 0 0

Do you work outside the home? Thus someone from work that you can team up with.......or go alone. Sooner or later, he will either join you, or your relationship will dissolve. But dont waste your life away. Life is for living, learning, and enjoying.
I wish you the best! :)

2006-10-05 13:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0 0

Definetly make new friends and don't make your husband the center of your world! don't let him stop you from doing all the stuff you really enjoy. I bet once he see's that you are independent and can find other companions and do stuff yourself, he'll want to come out with you more.

2006-10-05 13:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0 0

that is nothing to leave your husband over. do you have any girlfriends you can go shopping, zoo, etc. with. i had the same problem with my fiancee exept he love his music studio and ps2. spend time with your friends eventually he will get jealous and will understand what it is like to be and do things by yourself.

2006-10-05 13:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

DO YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND THAT YOU COULD DO SOME OF THESE THINGS WITH. MOST HUSBANDS WOULD RATHER THE WIFE WENT SHOPPING WITH HER FRIENDS THAN TO DRAG HIM ALONG. YOU CAN ALSO GO ON YOUR OWN. I WOULDN'T DO THE BAR SCENE. IF HE'S A GREAT GUY STAY WITH HIM. YOU COULD GET A LOT WORSE.

2006-10-05 13:23:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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