he wants a divoce i dont gods law says its no grounds for divoice i am not goig back to him but i dont want to divoice him
2006-10-05 06:18:43 · 18 answers · asked by emma m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So, let him file for the divorce-then he will be the one breaking Gods law, not you. Anyway, if you read the fine print on the back (kinda like your credit card statement), it specifically states that "abuse of any kind in a relationship" alters the contract and therefore makes the divorce law null and void.
2006-10-05 07:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is A verse in the bible that talks about divorce, I can not tell you where to find it but, it goes something like this,
IF YOU CATCH THE OTHER SLEEPING WITH ANOTHER BESIDES THE ONE THERE ARE MARRIED, THEN THE ONE CAN GIVE TO THE LUSTER A PIECE OF PAPER IN FRONT OF THE TOWN STATEING THAT HE/SHE IS FREE. this is to cause shame on that person and they move to another place.
Well they you have it that is the only reason that God give us for divoice.
Even with religish as I am, I can not see God saying you have to stat with someone that is abusing you. Surely there is a deeper issue that is not being addressed. It could be he guilt because he has cheated on you. Or it could be that is the way he saw his father treat his mother and that is the only way he knows to treat you now. Eighter way he needs help more than you can give him and if he is not willing to go with you to counteling than I would say give him the divoice.
That does not mean that you have to start play the field again to. You can still keep your Vows that you made to him in front of God. The Devoice is only a piece of paper that man exknowages not God. So as long as you sign the paper and due nothing then I can not see that you have done anything wrong in God eyes eighter.
Then after he does start playing around then the divoice would become vild to God and then you could if you wanted to start seeing someone else. But keep it clean until you marry the person or you will fall into the same judgement as your ex.
2006-10-05 06:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by wagg62003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not going back to him, then why are you clinging to a marriage that neither of you really want? Let go and restart your life. Find someone that will treat you better and not abuse you. No person has the right to treat another with abuse. If you feel you are not in God's law on that, then don't remarry. You need to leave an abusive situation before you become a statistic on a homicide chart. Many wives don't survive the abuse. God does not intend that we be whipping post for someone to hurt.
2006-10-05 06:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by kolacat17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't have it both ways. He's going for a divorce and if your young enough, maybe even an enulmnet. You need to take this as a lesson. You were in denial of his ways before you were married; this just didn't happen; you need to be wiser in the future.
I don't know what you want from people here. If your not going to divorce him then there's no question your asking, but you may not have a choice if he legally goes after it.
2006-10-05 06:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's law also says that if you must separate then do so , and return together when it is time. Time means:1 he has attended Domestic Violence counseling2 You have attended support group for victims of domestic violence(there are many free programs for that) in the group you wll learn boundaries, self respect, self worth, and that it is unacceptable for anyone to put their hands on you at any time,and that verbal abuse is just as damaging. 3 you have both attended marriage counseling. God will forgive you for divorcing him if it comes to that. God definitely does not intend for you to stay in harm's way. Pray, but don't stay! Blessings on you.
2006-10-05 06:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God would never want you to be with a man that beats you! Do you plan on spending the rest of your life alone? What are you going to do five years down the road when you try to have a new relationship? Oh...by the way, I'm married!?
2006-10-05 06:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of God's law, you have no power to stop him from divorcing you by the law of the state.
If you're not going back, good for you - but get used to the fact that he's filing the papers.
2006-10-05 06:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but why would you stay married to someone who is abusing you? Get out of that situation now or you will continue to suffer and down the road worse things could happen to you. Sometimes you have to do things that you dont want to
2006-10-05 06:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by rockerchick0727 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might insult you but screw gods law. Sometimes you have to do whats right for you and "god's law" isn't always right.
If he wants a divorce, he can get one. Whether you want it or not. And he has the right to get married again if he should decide to do so. So do you.
2006-10-05 06:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes God hates divorce but he also want us to be happy. III John 1:2 says "My beloved I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health just as you soul prospers." It is not healthy for you to be in an abusive marriage. Also read I Corinthians's chapter 13 starting at verse 4 It says what love is. Also here is another scrpital Ephesians chapter 5 verses 28&29 and it states"Husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies;he who loves his wife loves himself. "And verse 28 says "for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as the Lord does the chruch. So, If he doesn't love himself he can't love you.
2006-10-05 06:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Tammi R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋