why do men think we are so emotional?

Question

I am not a very emotional person and i have been told that i have no heart because i dont cry very often. whats your opinion. am i hard hearted or just not that into letting others know how i feel.

Answer 1

Only you know, but it's never good to pretend to be something your not. But if you're not the emotional type then that makes you a strong women and there' nothing wrong with that- be proud and own it!!=)

Answer 2

I think you are probably hardhearted to some extent, and it's a strong accusation for me to make; and it's a hard assusation to take. Let me explain why and I'll go from there:

You did not elaborate much on the post. It seems like it was written quickly, as if in frustration or desperation (I judge from lack of capital letters and brevity). I would expect, if you were looking for a discussion of this topic in general without emotion attached to it you might have not seemed so rushed (again, judged by the lack of capital letters, punctuation, and brevity of the message). Furthermore, why would someone post something such as this? Something, like a specific event, usually sparks these things. I am going to gather these assumptions and presume that you were recently hurt, and I shall answer from that perspective:

I don't know how old you are, but I am twenty-two and male. Most of my life I really didn't cry much, but now I do (though I usually don't do it much in front of other people). I think for anyone, crying is perfectly normal and natural, and when people don't cry, it's because they can still handle it (or at least fool themselves into believing they can).
"But you're a guy," you might say. "Girls are typically more emotional, yet I'm a girl and do not cry."
Sure, I'm a guy, but some of this must apply. I can recognize now that the reasons I did not cry before was because I was stopping myself. Common sense, right? Well, not exactly. The way I stopped myself was by not opening up--by not becoming attached to people or putting my emotions "out there."
Most people in this day and age are lonely. Loneliness is destroyed by strong bonds of intimate relationships, and that has nothing to do with sex. I am talking about intimate conversation, and it could be with a boy or girl; loneliness is eliminated by sharing true hopes, fears, and dreams. Sharing such things is putting yourself "out there," and it makes you vulnerable.
The reason my answer was that I believe you are somewhat hardhearted was because I believe you not letting yourself become vulnerable.You:

1.) Don't cry, which means you probably don't make yourself vulnerable enough for people to actually mean enough to you to affect you in such a way that you might cry.
2.) You did not share details on your post, which also hints at being closed up.

My conclusion is this, to directly answer your questions:

Q1 Answer: Men think you (females) are so emotional because we (men) typically try to be tough and unemotional all the time. Thus, every other female, for the most part, is more emotional.

Q2 Answer: (my opinion is all over the place)

Q3 Answer: You are hardhearted to some extent, in my opinion, BECAUSE you are not letting others know how you feel.

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You do have a heart, and you do care, which is why you posted this question. That is why I said you were only somewhat hardhearted.

If you want to activate that ability to cry inside of you, just plop your heart into the hands of some guy whom you have a crush on, and let him crush it or soften it. The catch is that you really must put your heart out there. On that day I am sure you will let others know how you feel--and you will not be hardhearted at all. Your heart will leak tears of either happiness or sadness.

Answer 3

This is one of those questions that can't be answered without knowing you and your background.

It could be that you are more of a grounded type, that you prefer to live life with stable emotions. Many women are naturally tempests, they are at once stormy and calm at the same time.

Men think women are emotional because it is these women who draw the most attention, and it is these women men are most interested in learning how to "tame".

So it could just be that you are not that type of girl, perhaps you have a very strong "male anima", which means you tend to be more stable and rational. (by the way men and women both have male and female sides to them, just in different quantities)

Or, a question for you. Were you ever abused when you were younger? Did you ever have a relationship that broke your heart? Did you ever decide that being a feminine woman would get you hurt in the long run?

Any of these choices could have you choosing not to express your feminine side as much. And this is perfectly okay. It just leaves SOME guys feeling like they have nothing to do. Almost like you are too easy to deal with. And they get bored.

Unfortunately, most men both love AND hate the "tempest women" as I call them. We love their femininity, and we hate their crazy mood swing. But the bottom line is that these women turn us on like crazy, and make us feel like men.

Answer 4

I think you are not emotional. I think you are trained like that. So if you were in a very sad situation, you wouldn't cry at all. You wouldn't feel sad at all. I think all people need to be like that. I need to be very nonemotional.

Answer 5

because most men are idiots, emotional isn't always crying, its also standing firm for what you believe in, loving, caring, and giving.

Answer 6

maybe your afraid to show your emotions, that if you do, you think people will think your weak..but showing emotions only shows that you have feelings,

Answer 7

i think all women r emotional bt u can handle it well.psss.... dun ever cry in front of man...!

Answer 8

JUST BECAUSE YOU DON'T CRY DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE NOT EMOTIONAL
ALL WOMEN ARE AND THERE'S A PERFECTLY LOGICAL EXPLANATION FOR IT

IT'S CALLED ESTROGEN

Answer 9

because we are