We are a good christen family and my sister is gay,which most of us in the family accept even though God says it's wrong. I just got married 7 months ago to my very beautiful wife
Well I work far from home, So many times I'm out of town and my sister is staying with us.I was happy for my wife to have a friend and a relative there to make sure everything was ok. I was able to get some time off from work to come home early from my job and found them showering together.needless to say I was heartbroken,I can't believe that my wife would do this to me and what about my sister I can't figure that one out as well. I'm so hurt and upset at the both of them. they tryed to give me some lame excuse that they were just saving water(we are on well water) But from what I saw thats a lie. what would you do if your life just came to a halt why did god let this happen? I've been good
2006-10-05 06:04:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are full of s**t.
...and God doesn't make this kind of thing 'happen', moron. Sleezy women do.
2006-10-05 06:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, don't blame this on God, you need to take the fault where it lies. You knowing that your sister had this problem should have alerted you to have her state somewhere else. The devil has control of idle time, and with your wife being alone, he (devil, in your sister) had a great playground to have fun with. So, now it's up to you to clean this up if you want to stay married & have your sister in your life too. Ask her to leave in order to keep your marriage, and hopefully you can trust your wife enough to leave for work again without her being weak to the flesh & just wait for you to fulfull her needs & desires. Wish you luck!
2006-10-05 06:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is a PIG!!!! No grown *** women shower together!!!!! How she could do something so hurtful to you is beyond me.
I'm sticking with sis because I feel family has more obligation to you. Ofcourse she could be telling the truth and have no sense of appropriate behaviour BUT i think it is VERY important she knows how that made you feel. She needs to respect your marriage and the relationship the two of you have as siblings.
As for the WIFE, I say dump her.
Speak to your pastor (or whoever) and don't be bitter and do try to mend things with your sister AFTER letting her know EXACYTLY how it felt to think your wife is ******** your own sibling.........would rather a stranger to rip your guts out than your FAMILY!!!!!
2006-10-05 06:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's tough and sorry something like this has happen to you. Maybe god is trying to show you something. Maybe he wants to see how you will work this situation out with your wife. You know you have to forgive but of course you won't forget. Sounds like you need to be straight in your wife face and tel her to be honest and let you know what is going on. To you sister tell her to leave. Work on your marriage if you want to stay with her then get to your sister later. To Bad I aint your sister I would be beating both there A**
2006-10-05 06:10:47 · answer #4 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found in my life God has a way of humbling you.And testing you.I would talk to your sister and ask what was going on.If you think there was something happening, then ask her to leave.
I would then sit my wife down and explain from your perspective how it looks,and tell her how much it's bugging you.
Perhaps you should seek counciling.I'm sorry for your situation,and wish the best for you and your family...good luck
2006-10-05 06:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is not punishing you! God only gives us what we can handle!
I know this is a hard situation to get through, but this to will pass.
First, accept that there is NOTHING wrong with being gay.
second, talk to your wife, and just try to get some honest answers.
Some people do experiment, and if you are married, it is wrong, but it doesn't mean she doesn't love you and it doesn't mean she's gay.
Talk to both of them, dont' be judgemental, just planly tell them you want the truth and try to accept what they say.
Maybe you can seek conselling and try to work this out.
It's probably also a good idea that your sister move out.
I wish you luck!
2006-10-05 06:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not God's fault. Your wife has bi-sexual tendencies. Having your lesbi sister there just caters to her temptations. Need to have a talk with both girls. Need to talk to wife about her sexual preferences. If she feels like she's bi then you need to re-evaluate your marriage, do you want to live that way ? Need to talk to your sister, why is she putting in fence posts on your territory ? After discussion, sister needs to leave and wife, if bi you need to decide if you want to live in a sinful marriage ? Wife may start with female partners, then may lead to other male partners aside from you. Will say a prayer for you so you can cope with this. GB
Good luck !
2006-10-05 06:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife made the decision to do that act with your sister, when doing something that is considered a sin,how can one expect God to intervene? Her decision had nothing to do with you being a good person, don't blame yourself for what she did. Talk to you wife let her know how you feel.
2006-10-05 06:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats a true story, then I guess it sucks to be you...maybe God is trying to tell yu something...if your a true christian then don't you believe that God made all of us, none of us are perfect and we're not supposed to judge? Well maybe judging your sister pissed him off and now he's showing you just exactly why you have no right to judge. Remember...the bible was written by MEN not God and with that came their interpretation. I don't believe for one minute God makes mistakes, including your sister.
2006-10-05 06:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what doesnt kill us makes us stronger, and why the hell does god do anything hurtfull to us right? well for starters you need to talk to your wife, then you need to talk to your sister. be a man i know yo can. put down some ground rules. and if that doesnt work maybe you should switch jobs to be home to care for your wifes needs and who knows maybe this was just a thing as a woman ive wanted to be with a woman but never have, and never will. if that doesnt work maybe you should just become one big happy f**king family. being gay is what god has done to your sister he made her this way so if i t was wrong he wouldnt of done it. is it wrong becausesome one is black or white or green? any wase i hope this helpd
2006-10-05 06:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all God didn't do this and second of all we all go threw trails and tribulation to test us all God hates divorce but will allow it in the case of adultery but you need to step back and take a look at where you are now and where you have been we don't get Brownie points for us being good you are up against the powers of darkness in this world Thank God for all the things hes done and will do for you and stop pointing the finger at him
2006-10-05 06:11:38 · answer #11 · answered by Josie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋