relationship that wasnt even that serious. i have a wonderful partner (we are not yet married). we have been through alot and i finally moved here to his perm home base.he has started working like mad (12 hr days, 5-6 days/wk)and i have no friends here at all. i am not able to get out much. the thing is, all the old friends i had were really bad influences and selfish people. my partner told me that i need to have them out of my life which i agree with. i have even stopped talking to my own mother b/c she is a really nasty person. anyway, i just feel lonely esp. with him working constantly and we are even in midst of breakup b/c of all the problems. its hard to stay positive. i am in school currently but the ppl there are really not my type. (partying) anyway, feeling isolated. and i really want to hold my rel together but i have been really difficult. he is the only one i talk to so i am always venting. it is possible we may split up which i hate to think of. any suggestions?
2006-10-05 06:03:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's very possible that may be the outcome. Instead of venting to him.. you should try to spend the time you have together happy. He works all day and all week.. the last thing he needs is for you to vent on how unhappy you are. You might want to try and go out and make some local friends to do things with. Maybe even try online friend sites. But if you are ultimately not happy, then you need to reconsider your move. Talk you your bf.. don't vent - talk. Tell him how you feel and see if he has any suggestions you can compromise with. I wish you luck
2006-10-05 06:12:57 · answer #1 · answered by Mel and Ed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to reconsider the relationship you're in now. Look at it this way, do you expect things to change in the near future or stay the same. Will he always be working mad hours or is it just temporary. None the less, you don't have a social life and it's due to him telling you not to hang out with your old friends. What's to say he won't say the same thing to your new friends? In order for you to change the way things are...you not being happy and being lonely...you need do start doing things that will make you and your son happy. Are there things you like to do or groups you could join? I would imagine if you look in your area, there are a lot of social clubs or events you could attend and meet new people. Even with school and work, doing it once a week would probably give you enough satisfaction of just doing something else. Be sure to do the right thing for you and your son...that's what's most important. Life's too short to sit around and ponder.
2006-10-05 06:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rogodogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could join a club of some sort, maybe some kind of exercise, yoga or a gym? Think about what you like to do and see if there's somewhere you could do it. Or try to find activities that your son could do, when you take him and pick him up there's a good chance you'll meet other Mums who you may have more in common with than the people at school.
2006-10-05 06:18:51 · answer #3 · answered by lichita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a religious person, but if you are, try to get into a group at your church. Or do a couple hours of volutneer work during the week to meet people. Get involved in the PTA at your sons school. You could also get in on play groups with other fellow mothers with children your sons age. This way, you can bring your son with you since he takes up most of your time. Do what you can to stick it out, it sounds as though you have a good,hardworking man.
2006-10-05 06:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok , so in certainty you faux like your married and you somewhat have a baby jointly, and your thinking why he wont get married?????? previous asserting *why purchase the cow while u get the milk for loose* , he has each little thing he needs, with no need to totally devote to it.. he has the outfitted in spouse, family and so on, with no need to legally be binded to it.. So at this ingredient u have 2 alternatives, the two u submit with the placement u placed your self into and desire at last he comes around sooner or later, or you rigidity him right into a difficulty that he has to chosen between commited to u or no longer.. 10 years is a protracted time to attend, so in some unspecified time contained sooner or later u would desire to be certain in the experience that your dropping your existence , or accepting that it is your existence and take care of it.. yet extra then possibly after 10 years and a baby, uncertain hes going to alter any time quickly if those 2 issues havent replaced his techniques.. So my suggestion to you.. is provide up actting like the outfitted in spouse.. provide up sound asleep with him, provide up cooking and cleansing for him, do in easy terms for you and your baby.. initiate doing issues thoroughly out of character yet no longer something that would breach your relationship.. why? because of the fact while he asks why , you in easy terms say , your bored with pretending to be a spouse to somebody who needless to say doesnt desire a spouse, and if that adjustments to assist you comprehend, yet until eventually it does, your no longer likely to be his, maid, roomate with benifits, cook dinner and so on .. until eventually he comes to a decision he needs a *spouse* .. ur no longer likely to act like a spouse..
2016-10-01 23:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by lininger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talk to yr partner about yr feeling maybe he cud down on how much hes working cuz its seems to me yr lonely and lacking in self esteem, you need to stop and think we your old friends really that bad or has he just made you think that
2006-10-05 06:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have already made so much sacrifice
why don't give the relationship a chance
try to see about making friends
2006-10-05 06:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and get to know people in your neighborhood. And at your school.
2006-10-05 06:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋