My wife is 22 and Im 27. we have been together for almost five years now and two weeks ago she tells me that she doesnt know what she wants, she feels like she wants to be single and she might not feel the same for me like she did when we got married. but she wants to try to work it out to see if we could both get to feel the same way we did when we meet. the other thing is that is just started a new job where she works with all men, i dont know if she she might be getting a little to much attention. should we get a divorce??????????
2006-10-05 05:56:38 · 16 answers · asked by caragon27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all..when you are talking about divorce..do you have children with your wife?
From your story, it seems you dont have any..forgive me..maybe i'm wrong..but please do question yourself..what was the main purpose when you 1st get married? normally, when two get married all they want is..to be together through thick and thin and through sick and hapiness all the way and to have children together...
maybe your wife seems get bored with the same old two people in the house with nothing to be entertained or occupied with..
perhaps..if you still do love her and wants to carry on with this marriage..why not cherish her and try rewind the experience the moments you were together before married..all the courtship and so on..
dont leave and push her away..and assuming that she have extra attention at her new workplace.. this extra attention from the other side could pull her and makes her slowly turn away from you if your marriage still goes on sour mode..
maybe persuade your wife to have a child together will give a cheer in your marriage..
divorce is the last resort..its just a bad thing..try reconcile if you still have heart for her..
2006-10-05 06:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by MissChievous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you have been married for 5 years that means she's been with you since she was 17. Which means she bascially had no time to be a teenager. I don't think you guys should get a divorce for the simple fact that you have been married for 5 years. But i think she may need a break just from the relationship itself. She's confused and it's not going to help if you ride her all the time trying to figure out what she wants to do.
But i wish you two the best.
2006-10-05 13:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think you should get counceling. i personally dont believe in divorce. my husband it 22 and im 28. we have been through it all but its not about your past its about your future. there are times i wish i could be single but i know i cant live without my husband. so i would give it a shot, seek help, take a weekend away together. if nothing helps try a time out( seperation) for a bit it will either bring you closer or that will be the finall decision maker.
2006-10-05 13:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by evilella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is worth at least seeing what options you have, aside from divorce. Try counseling - give it your best effort, then if things do end in a divorce you will know that you tried your hardest to make things work and both of you will be able to walk away much better people.
2006-10-05 12:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should take the first step and try to get the relationship back to where it was....that is what she told you
If that doesn't work then, she wants a break (separation) to see how it is being single
If you both feel better off separated from each other THAN that's when you should get a divorce.
Respect her for at least communicating with you and give her what she wants
2006-10-05 13:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by fatiegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out. However, keep in mind that you were both too young when you got together. She never got her single days of fun out of her system. And you're probably right, that she's getting a lot of attention, like she's never seen before. And it could be strongly clouding her thinking. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 13:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk about why she don't feel the same ....it might have to do with the stress of new job ect. It also might be that she is feeling as if she didn't get to sow her wild oats...
you may need to separate or try an open relationship for a while to let her have some fun and play.
also discuss and try to find the a way to feel as the way you did when you fell in love...sometimes one must re-date ones partner.,
2006-10-05 13:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by ladysilverhorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what about you make an affort to give the attention that you think she might be getting from these other guys
Divorce if for when their no other option
come one I presume you did take some time to decide to get married why don't you take sometime to decide about the divorce
Good luck
2006-10-05 13:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all women go through this from time to time, You should both get some counseling and get to the root of the problem, if she says she wants to work it out then that is the way to go.
2006-10-05 13:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel? All you talk about it your wifes feelings.
I think you should try to work in out, seek conselling and give your best, and if things still arn't the same, then move on, you're both still young.
2006-10-05 13:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋