How does a person truly accept themselves?

Question

To get the "I am me, accept it!" aspect of their life, to put it forefront in all they do and be strong to stick to it... to not be worried about what others think about them... and to make their imperfect mind/body perfect to themselves...?

Answer 1

First, you have to know that you are true to your own values, whatever others may say. In order to do that, you must know what your values are. Really are, not just what you figure they should be, or what your Sunday School teacher said they should be. (My mother was a Sunday School teacher; double whammy!)

What characteristics do you truly value? Honesty? Courage? Creativity? Tolerance? Those are all good. Intelligence? Well, you do the best you can with what you have, and count tolerance for your own mistakes along with your compassion for others.

Whatever you feel others deserve from you, you also deserve from yourself. Plus a little, perhaps, except for the people you truly love.

It may take you some time to decide what you really believe, but once you do, resolve that you will henceforth do your honest level best to live up to those standards. When you make a mistake, admit it quickly to minimize the damage control needed to make it right.

Now, how does all this fit in to how you are feeling? If nothing else, it gets you using your fore-brain, where intelligence and reasoning and analysis are located. Then the hind brain, which is where you have all those prickly emotional responses (Oh, how awful! Poor me! Naughty me! etc.), can be merely information for the fore-brain, and not overwhelm you. OK, you have made mistakes in your life. Welcome to the real world. Do your best to make amends, to do damage control and repair of problems caused by your mistake, and don't let them overwhelm you. Chances are you know plenty of people who have done worse.

Answer 2

Some people are as hard as steel from the word go. They emit a force, which seems to glow strong throughout their lives. Other people on the other hand suffer from anxiety related illnesses because they've never been that strong. They're too self-conscious and are easily manipulated.

Some say it gets better with age. That might be true - perhaps when dementia sets in and the person begins to lose their marbles - so to speak!

So there you go: the decision as to whether you will accept yourself in life will never be yours.

But don't let that worry you.

Answer 3

Take actions that correspond with it. Being confident in front of a group. Telling people what you really think, feel, and believe on the deepest level, and not being afraid of what others think about the truth of you, are all symptoms of it.

Answer 4

When they stop thinking about it.

People who accept themselves dont think they are perfect, they know they are not and they stop beating themselves by up trying to be.

Give yourself a hug!

Answer 5

Its not so much accepting ones self as accepting others as themselves. Your not intimidated by others veiw of you.

Answer 6

I think that this is something that we will be striving to achieve our whole lives. no one can honestly say that they accept themselves 100%. It makes us strive to be better to do better.

Answer 7

You have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and not want to change a thing.

Answer 8

see yourself as valuable enough - regardless of how important you are to others - you are still important and valuable enough to do this for yourself. its not selfish or arrogance.

Answer 9

it take alot of soul searching of yourself and this comes with maturity

Answer 10

it's phschological! if you tell someone enough times they believe it them selvs kind of thing...... but u gotta believe it in the first place..........