i told my boyfriend i was pregnant while we were in a big argument the first thing he said was and thats not my problem and he didn't wanna have a baby by me and i ask well what the h*** am i suppose to do so he was still saying i dont wanna have a baby and he was like get an abortion in stead of comeing at th situation like a man qand it really hurted me but i wanted to know why was he saying this i thought he loved me and wanted a baby by me i mean it took both of us to do it but after i went off on him he came at the situation a bit better but he still want s me to have an abortion and its like thats all he wants instead of tryin to comfort me im 18 and dont go to school just lost my job and been through a lot and dont have any help from my family been through a lot just want somebody to love me its hard and staying with a friend i've been with him for 2 years and he was my first love i know i dont need a baby but i just dont believe in takeing another life .
2006-10-05 05:33:16 · 23 answers · asked by ashambra s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if i was in your situation i would keep the baby because children are a miracle and a blessing and i would leave the boyfriend
2006-10-05 05:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer.frye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go get help form the government. they can give you insurance to get proper care for the baby. Don't get an abortion. Some women can and not think twice about it, however you seem the type that would go into depression. If you can't take care of the baby. put it up for adoption. There are A LOT of couples out there that want a baby and can't have one. You can even have an open adoption, where you will know that the baby is doing ok. Leave the guy alone, if he makes a baby with you and tells you to get an abortion what kind of person is he, he's not worth killing you baby! There are lots of people that can help you. Go to planned parenthood, they can give you contact numbers of places that can help you.
Good luck!!
2006-10-05 12:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by tnmomof2as 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I know you have heard this before but you need to wear protection. Its too late now but think of the consequences.
Next go get yourself in order. You need to find a job and get yourself back in school. You can do both at least until the baby comes and when he/she gets a bit older you can continue school. Make your life from now on better if not for yourself for your child.
Should you choose to give the baby up of adoption which I do not think that is your plan here I would find a good family for the baby. But do not think that is what you want.
Lastly, get rid of that guy that you call your boyfriend. He will be of no good to you and will mistreat you and your child if he is forced into staying with you. He must however, support your child once it is born should you decide to keep it. That is the law of this land and if he does not pay up he will go to jail.
The number one thing you need to do is get yourself some prenatal care and go get yourself some training whether it be secretarial or something in computers.
The second thing you need to do is get rid of your boyfriend - you are young and there is no reason you have to settle for anyone who treats you or your baby poorly. Remember you are worth more than you know.
Good luck
2006-10-05 12:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by nukmeister1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is simple. First off, if you're not ready that cool, atleast u can admitt it. However DO NOT get an abortion. If that baby is healthy there is no reason to. He/She did not ask to be made that was ur decision when u had sex. There is adoption, that would be your best bet. Personally i'd tell my B/F to eat **** and get a life. Not easy but he should be more supportive. Just ask yourself this, could u live with the guilt of killing and innocent child and not letting it have a chance at a good life even if it's not you giving it that? Good luck and i hope udo the right thing!
2006-10-05 12:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is a very good option. it's a Hard choice .. but it saves Lives of many many babies. There are SOO many good familys out there that want children. ( My Husband was adopted) .. Most Adoption Places , will Pay all your medical bills.
An if you do keep the baby , have a blood test done , to Prove thats his kid , an make him pay Child Support for the next 18 years. Dont think you can not raise that baby alone , You are a woman .. you can do anything that is placed in your path.
GOOD LUCK.
I have a personal storie for this .. if you would like to you may e-mail me , an i will share my story with you. Much much luck.
2006-10-05 12:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everybody else. Lose the LOSER, first off. Dont get an abortion!!! Just chillax for a while and wait till you calm down to make any major decisions. If you are not ready, I suggest going to a pregnancy center and talking to them about options other than abortion. If anything they will probably bring up adoption. I would go with that choice if you arent ready like you say. But if you decide to have the baby, best of luck to you and I wish you luck. Tell that sorry boyfriend of yours to HIT THE ROAD!
2006-10-05 12:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Vennessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. you had sex and got pregnant, who would have thought that would ever happen??????
OK, first the B/F doesn't love you, I don't care what he says, he was just using you for sex. Get rid of him.
Second, The baby, you said "i dont need a baby but i just dont believe in takeing another life ." that leaves keeping the baby and raising it yourself or adoption. Raising a baby is hard under the best of situations. I would have to recommend adoption, you may even get to meet the child after it grows up if it wishes to see you. At least with adoption you will get proper medical care through the adoption agency.
You are in a bad spot and I don't envy the choices you are going to have to make, but either you are going to make the choices or life is going to make them for you.
2006-10-05 12:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by David 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was reading some of the answers and there were those that said dump the boyfriend and keep the baby, and dump the boyfriend and put the baby up for adoption. On both sides, they're right about the boyfriend; he's obviously an @$$h01e, but whether you put the baby up for adoption, or keep it, please don't get an abortion. The baby did nothing to deserve to die, except be the result of an (obviously, in this case) ill-advised sexual escapade.
2006-10-05 12:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard and emotional when u are pregnant. I know it is ur first child and most ppl worry alot about every movement or thing. But WOMEN have to be strong. We have to show that we can do it without them.. If u keep a positive attitude, things will come ur way. Life is about struggling...that how u succeed and fulfil ur desires. You have to think about Yourself and the little one. Never know when he will left or will ever support u. I've been there and done that. I though of an abortion or giving her up for adoption. I didn't, and know i'm here 5 years later, single mother and BLESSED!!!! BE STRONG
2006-10-05 12:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by csabrinam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well even if you dont want to keep the baby, you can always give the baby up for adoption. In many cases you can even choose who you want to give your baby too which may be comforting to you. This person may also help/pay for prenatal care and hospital etc. I think I would dump the boyfriend though. Sounds like a bad egg.
2006-10-05 12:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by sooz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby, lose the boyfriend. get another job, look for medical assistance because giving borth is expensive. Look in to WIC. Oh and dont be SUPER picky about gifts that you may receive for the baby. Most of my sons clothes are donated clothes from other moms. Babies grow so fast its just WAY too expensive to buy all brand new clothes every few weeks!! Its gonna be tough, but you'll make it!!
2006-10-05 13:06:14 · answer #11 · answered by ApRiL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋