It's been a yr and this will be my first tat, and I think i wanna get his name 'Nate' on my right ankle, u know something small.
He was 27 when he was murdered and I was 18, but Im now 19. We were in a very serious relationship, he proposed a few weeks b4 he died, but it wasn't official sorta.
.I will always love this man, and even if I Move on my he will always be apart of me because he was my first. That is an even more permanent connection that a tattoo. This man is my mind, and I will love him 4ever. In your opinion what will be the Pro and Cons of this.
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2006-10-05 05:22:04 · 20 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, it's really up to you, but in my experience I have found that it is better to think of something he really liked, or something that both of you liked, w/e that may be, a flower, sunset, moon and stars.....something like that; ONLY because when you get into other relationships, you will find this to be a problem with guys......I know it is silly on their part, but it's true. I have never tattooed a name on me, just a symbol or a special tat that only the two of us would know........you could also make up a design of your own and take it to an artist, that would be awesome!
2006-10-05 05:31:49 · answer #1 · answered by Pattycake2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that'll be a great conversation killer when you meet a new man.
"Say, what's that tattoo on your leg? Nate? Who's Nate?"
"Oh, that just my dead boyfriend's name. Wanna make out?"
Watch his penis drop faster than Bush's popularity rating.
Why not get a pendant or something that you can take off? Having another guy's name on you permanently is sort of a turn off for any new guy you might meet. You're only 19, so you're bound to meet a few more. It would be different if you two had actually been married or it was the name of a son who died young. what if, say when you're 28, you meet the man who you REALLY love? You gonna add his name to the list?
2006-10-05 05:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you two had a great connection, and if you want to get the tatoo then it's your decision. I don't think I would, but I don't think I want any tatoos period. In a way, it might make things worse because you will always be reminded of him and what happened when you look at your ankle, it could possibly just depress you. And if/when you start dating again, it may be akward for your next serious boyfriend or even husband. I am so sorry about what happened to him, and I wish you goodluck in whatever you decide to do.
2006-10-05 05:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ever get someones name tattooed on your body unless it is your kids.
It is not a good idea and you will eventually want it covered up which can get expensive.
The best solution is to think of something you both liked, such as for example clowns, tigers, frogs, dream catchers, and etc. Get that symbol tattooed on you for memory purposes. Then if you do move on in the future its just a tattoo and not an argument piece. Because only you will know its true meaning.
2006-10-05 05:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tats are forever. How will you explain this to other men, or your husband or children when they ask why there's a mans name on your leg that they do not know? Would you understand if a man had a woman's name on him? I still have a lost love but I did not and willnot get a tattoo of his name on be because I want him to be my special memory that noone knows about but me. He will always be in my heart regardless of whom I marry.
2006-10-05 05:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by missie695 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a noble sweet gesture and yes he will always be a part of you. BUTsomeday when you have moved past this grieving period of your life...you may have a husband that must always at your leg every moment of the day and especially in the bedroom and he will always wonder if he ever measures up to this man. You may want to ask yourself how you may feel if your next significant other or husband had a former girlfriends name tatooed on his body and how it would make you feel.
I never recommend tatooing a person's name on your body. Keep all your momentos, cherish, celebrate your relationship for as long as you want....But keep on living and progressing your life. You are worth it!
2006-10-05 05:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should do it. the majority of people who get tatoos like that eventually end up regretting it. this doesn't mean that you don't love him or that you will stop caring about him, this just means that getting a tatoo of his name won't change anything. why not try finding another way to preserve his memory instead of a tatoo? maybe get a painting made of him or the both of you together?? or write a poem and have it framed or something else....but don't get a tatoo.
2006-10-05 05:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know first hand of losing a boyfriend. I grieved for many years over my loss. One thing I know for sure is that the memories of your boyfriend are tatooed in your heart and in your mind. I don't feel that you need this on your ankle.
2006-10-05 05:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Gee 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm a tatto enthusiast myself. my advice to anyone considering their first inking, is always the same: make sure this is something that you wan to keep with you for the rest of your life. i can definitely understand you wantig to memorialize your love in this way. but also keep in mind that many people are narrow minded. think, for a minute, how a future boyfriend might feel about your dead lovers name being printed on his love. good luck-todd t
2006-10-05 05:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do the same if I were in your situation, that way he'll always be with you physically and mentally.
I'm sorry for the death of your fiance, must be hard huh? I say go for it!
2006-10-05 05:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by Janine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋