In reference to previous question.... My girlfriend and I very often have gfights in which we both come away very upset. Not fighty fights, more moments of extreme emotion. Very rarely is there shouting, and when we resolve it, we both look back in bewilderment at what just happened. We are so in love with each other, every time this happens it seems ridiculous. We have been together for 9 months, and most of the time we are as happy as anything, but these niggles are a problem. HELP!
2006-10-05 05:20:42 · 24 answers · asked by Cricketer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She gets very upset when she feels I'm not supporting her, like asking her about her problems or being indecisive.
2006-10-05 05:28:15 · update #1
yes it does cause something in your mind or his just isn't clicking properly and you shouldn't go through all of that pain there is no relationship if all you do is fight that is all it is is a huge fight that continues on and on
2006-10-05 05:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I've got the same problem with my boyfriend. We are together for 5months now but know each other for longer..
We are very happy together but about twice a month we get a really serious fight which often starts with foolish things (there is shouting and threatening of dumping each other)..
Afterwards we're always very sad it happened but also extremely happy we didn't broke up.
It doesn't mean you're doomed, it probably just means:
1. you both get emotional sometimes
2. you like each other so much that you get scared and angry when something goes wrong because you're afraid of losing each other -> the emotion makes things worse
3. you're very similar (which is often hard to live with)
Or all 3 (I think that's the problem with me and my lover)
Hope this helps, don't let her go if you love her!
2006-10-05 12:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Wyvern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship there always going top be ups and downs... Seems like you guys are misscommunicated and try to learn to compromise... It really just depend on you guys whether or not the relationship are doomed.. Do you want to save the realtionship? Do you want to work it out?? It depend on whether you guys want to fix the relationship or rathner than breakup just so it is easier... Next time if you know there going to be a emotional fight walk away and take a walk instead of bickering that will help.. But remember soemtimes these fights will help bring the relationship closer.. Good luck
2006-10-05 12:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only means it's doomed if one or both of you can't live with these occasional tiffs. You haven't been together very long yet, and you still have a lot to learn about each other. (Trust me on this.) These tiffs may just be part of that process.
On the other hand, if they escalate and get worse and worse and more and more frequent then maybe that's a bad sign.
Do you live with each other yet? Usually when people move in together is a bit of a testing time.
One more thing to add. Sometimes you need to agree to disagree. And understanding and agreement are not the same thing!
2006-10-05 12:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to a good relationship is communications. So the two of you need to work on your communication skills, the thing is you need to sit down and establish boundaries, instead of fighting or shouting, discuss the issue, and see how you can resolve it. You will find that by doing this, will bring the two of you closer! and you will have a stronger relationship!
2006-10-05 12:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my hubby used to have HUGE fights all the time, even when i was pregnant. We have been together for 8 years now and surprisingly, this past few months we have both settled down and are talking better to each other. The sex is the best it has ever been and we are more in love now than before!
Keep at it, don't give up!!!!!
2006-10-05 12:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by cuddlymummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two will always fight. When did the fighting start? If it's little things then stop it when you know it's stupid. If they are big issues someone has to compromise or just listen to each other and work from there. Obviously you two need more conversation regarding your relationship. When I get mad I don't yell I grab him and we have a sit down talk and let it go from there. Good luck!
2006-10-05 12:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been together for 9 months? That should be the fun times. It may not get any better. Fighting sucks.
2006-10-05 12:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let these things get to you if u truly love each other that matters alot but u say that u guys fight like without shouting that's like disagreements everyone has thier different opinion and u should respect that & don't break up for a simple reason like this & good luck
xxx RuThiE xxx
2006-10-05 12:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nirvana FREAK! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you both need to relax around each other and work on your communication skills. By all means get your point across and listen to you partners view thoroughly. And I do mean listen. Two ears - one mouth!
Do not forget a little compassion and compromise.
2006-10-05 12:25:40 · answer #10 · answered by Des 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been with my wife 15 years, weve traveled the world and done all sorts of things.
We have foght all over the world......:)
My wife, i think, likes fighting, she thinks it keeps the relationship happy...anyway...we are both happy after ll this time, and do have an exiting life.
Hope this may help.
2006-10-05 12:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by timski2236 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋