well yestarday my boyfriends best friend pasted away. well i use to party with his friend. we never hooked up but we just hung out went out eat, etc. i think that someone must of told him that i use to hang out with him. last night he didnt call me, and today i called him and he didnt answer his phone and his work phone!!! what should i do? he was just someone that i could talk to. he gave me good advice!!! do u guys think that im bf might dump me?
2006-10-05 05:18:20 · 12 answers · asked by mustangsweetthing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweet heart its not all about you.. if you ask me you seem to have some guilty feelings because a normal person would realise their boyfriend just lost his best friend and is probly greaving. Men like to look tough and crying about stuff in public can be a no no so he is hiding away trying to deal with his sense of loss and you should be there supporting him not worrying about what he might know..
2006-10-05 05:24:53 · answer #1 · answered by z1280374 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but I think he's just upset and disappointed that you would actually hang out with his friend behind his back. Since your b/f already knows, I would tell him what you just told us and then I would apologize to him. Assure him that something like this will never take place again....and mean it! Your b/f might start thinking "Hmm, I wonder what else she's hiding from me." So now it might be difficult for your b/f to trust you again and this could cause alot of problems. Yes, you made a mistake but you also learn from them. Apologize to your b/f and try to mend the relationship as best you can. Do what you can to prove to your b/f that you are sorry and that nothing happened between you and his friend.
2006-10-05 12:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy whose best friend died and he was wkorking the rescue squad and went on the call. We later broke up because he did not know how to handle his friends death and was afraid to get close to anyone else. But in your case if your bf truly loves and trusts you he should not doubt you were faithful to him, but on the other hand he just lost his best friend and he probably doesn't want to talk right now. I would leave a message and tell him you love him and that you will be ther for him when he's ready to talk. Give him a few days and if he hasn't called you by then you may need to start to worry.
2006-10-05 12:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by missie695 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness! Your boyfriends best friend died YESTERDAY! Maybe for just a week or so his world isn't revolving around you! I know you want to be the one that holds him while he cries away his sorrow, but it obviously isn't like that. Give him some time to deal with it and if the subject about your friendship comes up the tell him what all happened. If he can't deal with it or doesn't believe you, what can you do? Not much anyway.
2006-10-05 12:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl his best friend just passed away...give him time to cope with his death...don't keep nagging him because you are insecure, don't think about yourself right now, think about your boyfriend and the horrible event that he's going through....He'll call you when he needs you, let him be right now.If he doesn't call you in like another two days,then you should call him and leave a message asking if he is okay, but don't be insecure...
2006-10-05 12:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by skeptical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is going though a hard time what you need to worrie about is to be there for him when he wants to have you there if you are so worried about hanging with his bf then maybe you should tell him that you just needed some advice from his bf but he is in a hard spot right now just try to be there
2006-10-05 12:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend may be depressed from the passing of his best friend. You need to be there for him, but don't be too pushy. Make sure your boyfriend knows you are available to talk anytime and give him sometime to work through his emotions.
2006-10-05 12:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt be worried, you didnt do anything wrong and if you bf dumps you for that then hes a jerkoff and you dont want someone like that. sorry about your friends btw
2006-10-05 12:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably needs some time to come to terms with the loss
stop looking for a problem until it surfaces
best wishes!
2006-10-05 12:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels betrayed. Let it go for a few days while he greives. It may not be you at all, but probably is.
2006-10-05 12:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋