One of my really good friends that I have know for about 8 years.. we just started hanging out again recently. Well she borrows my clothes and I dont mind that, but she leaves them everywhere... her trunk is full of stuff... she stays at other peoples houses, and she just borrows everyones clothes and changes where ever then leaves the clothes there. I have been asking her for about 3 weeks to bring my clothes back because I dont have anything to wear... Finally i got some of them back not all of them, and now she is telling me that she might have lost a pair of my favorite pants. If I was rich and could by new clothes... I guess it wouldn't matter, but I dont have a lot of clothes. Im trying to be nice and tell her nicely, but im running out of options.
2006-10-05 05:17:35 · 19 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She also doesn't see in hurry to bring my clothes back... because I am almost 5 months pregnant, but some of my clothes sitll fit me.
2006-10-05 05:21:46 · update #1
Of course this should bother you. It takes a lot of time, energy, and money to fill our closets with things we enjoy to wear. Sometimes a beautiful day can go wrong simply by opening your closet and realizing that outfit you had in mind just isn't anywhere to be found. And, to have your clothes lost by someone else is just frustrating. You are going to have to be firm with this girl. Sadly, some of the people we think are our best friends will take advantage if we let them. Just start a new policy with yourself and don't loan clothes to anyone anymore. Think of it in terms of money and time. Put a price on the time it takes you to find the things you need and want and add that to the price of the item. If you think of it this way, you are probably loaning out a lot more in monetary value than your pocketbook will allow. If she doesn't want to be your friend anymore just because she can't wear your clothes, then truthfully, the friendship wouldn't have lasted much longer anyway.
2006-10-05 05:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all have a friend like that. Me and my best friend are so bad about giving eachother things back that for my birthday this year she threw in some of the shirts and DVD's I lent her over a year ago lol. It used to bother me more when i was younger but now I really don't care. If it's annoying you though just tell her she can't borrow your stuff anymore because you'll never see it again. Nothing wrong with that.
2006-10-05 12:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it sounds like you may have found a long lost friend, maybe you should strep back and take a look at the situation. It sounds like your friend is using you, and everyone else for that matter. I would try a stern reaction and if that doesn't work, push a little harder. If still nothing, I think you might just have to continue without your fav pair of jeans. And maybe a lesson learned. I mean she has been out of your life for a while.
2006-10-05 12:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Becca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet girl is to just try and talk to her, tell her that what she is doing isn't right and that when you take other people's things or they let you borrow it for a little while, does not make it hers. Also try not to let her borrow your clothes if she takes one pair of clothing don't let her take anymore until that comes back!
I know clothes are not cheap, and what you do have your lucky to have them sometimes.
Good luck girl!
2006-10-05 12:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nezza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her in a calm, yet stern manner that you don't have the liberty of buying new clothes all the time. Also, that out of the goodness of your heart you let her borrow your clothes and now she has to return them as soon as possible...and not just some, but all of them.
Tell her that she needs to respect YOUR property and return it back to you.
You are asking for your own things back, its not as though you asked her to pay interest or such...be straight forward with her.
2006-10-05 12:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It' totally understandable that u would loan clothes out to a girlfriend, i mean..don't we all do that? But, i would hope that even if you could afford to replace your wardobe 5xs over you wouldn't let a "friend" totally disrespect you and your belongings like that. Just tell her that, because that is the real issue.. not the pair of pants.Hopefully she apologizes and you 2 can move on as friends..GL
2006-10-05 12:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think it's dumb to be upset about this. i think you should tell her how you feel. also, tell her that it's not like a good friend to borrow stuff and not return it in a timely manner and the same condition she got it in. in fact, not only is this something you shouldn't do to a friend, it's just plain rude!! tell her that if she can't respect you and your belongings then she can't borrow from you anymore. like you said, you aren't rich enough to keep replacing all your clothes.
2006-10-05 12:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by origchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she ask to borrow anything else tell her not until she returns your pants. Then start borrowing her clothes and see how she likes it.
2006-10-05 12:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by gemini78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she needs to buy a same pants for you. You did her a favor and she should not be doing that to you. Hope you learn the lesson and never trust her again.
2006-10-05 12:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The dumb thing is that you loan your clothes out in the first place. Don't loan anything that you can't afford to lose.
2006-10-05 12:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Spud55 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋