i m 21 age female depressed due to sexual abuse suffering have joint and back pain and breast pain?

Question

i m 21 age female i have suffered from sexual abuse at the age of 8 but it was not penitrative sex abuse.i did not enjoyed my teen age i was always crying and sad . i have lost my interest in many of my favorite things . i am depressed due to this i have now back pain ,joints pain ,and even breast pain, irregular periods .my weight is not reducing easily .i dont want to tell my past to my parents .but i want to get well and enjoy my life .but my breast pain is just worrying me more . my both breast pain .i also feel numbness in my brain when ever i eat any food . i want a proper solution and advise

Answer 1

Your best bet would first going to some kind of sexual abuse counselor to aid in the steps of your recovery from this. He/she will be able to tell you how to tell your parents and better deal with the situation. I myself had to go through this kind of therapy due to a rape that occured when I was 18. She was very understanding and dealt with this type of problem all of the time. I hope this helps and good luck with getting well in the future. You deserve your life back.

Answer 2

Oh Honey, you must hurt to bad, in your heart, your mind and your body.

Sexual abuse without penetration is still sexual abuse, with all the hurt, shame and despair. Sometimes of course you can't tell your parents, or it would make things worse- my best friend told her mother every year on the anniversary of when her worst abuse happened, and her mother ignored her.... because mom had been abused too.

It sounds though that right now you need several things. A good checkup for starters. It's OK to call your health care center and ask which doctors are women, friendly, sympathetic and so on.
You need a gyn exam, and often nurse practitioners have a little more time and are less intimidating than doctors.
And you need some support- which can been a counselor, or an incest/sexual abuse survivors support group.

How do you find one? Almost every crisis hotline- Rape Crisis, Al Anon, Domestic Violence hotlines, Teen hotlines and so on have a big book next to the phone with referral numbers in them- call and ask for information on sexual abuse support networks.

There is also a really good book out there, it's called "The Courage to Heal" look it up on amazon- it also has a companion workbook if you are interested. I've bought so many copies of that book for friend in similar situations, and it helps.

Be well sweety, and thanks for reaching out to all of us.

Dr.Max

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to read about your sadness. I see you are reaching out and I can tell your troubles are real. I want to assure you that seeking medical help is going to be the right thing to do. first you need to see a medical doctor. find a female doctor in the phone book, look online for your area doing a Google search, or just go to your local urgent care clinic. Please tell them what's been going on. they will always ask your permission before telling anyone about what you share with them. They will check you physically to ensure any ailments are being taken care of. They will also help you with finding some counseling and medications if they think you need it for your depression. There are some diseases that cause weight gain, depression, loss of appetite, irregular periods, breast pain and many other symptoms. Again, Please contact a Medical practitioner for your health we all care and want to help
CF- physician assistant

Answer 4

Im am sorry for what you have gone through. I can only imagine how painful it has been for you to have to hide this. But you are at an age now where you can seek both medical and psychological help without your parents finding out. I suggest that you do this for both your case of depression and for your physical problems soon. If you dont do this you will never have a normal or fulfilling life. I bet if you told your parents they would completey sympathize and it would probably bring them some understanding as to your behavior and problems. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

I feel for you. Please go to your local hospital and have a check up. Your parents do not have to know that you are visiting a doctor, until you are ready to tell them. To me it sounds as though you are totally stressed out, and this can cause muscles in your body to ache. Especially if you are tense all the time. You are depressed, and you can get treatment. You dont have to tell your parents what happened in the past, but you should have told them when it happened. Being young you were obviously frightened. You are still so young and have your whole life ahead of you. But you must go and see a doctor. Please do this for yourself. Life is for living. The bad things in life normally tend to make us stronger people. Stress can become phsycosamatic. (means it goes from mental to physical). I am in Cape Town. If you lived here I would have been able to help. Been down that road, and back again. Good luck honey.

Answer 6

My heart goes for you.Reading your story gives me heartache.First and foremost be courageous and mentally very strong. In my opinion,if abuser is not your parents and your parents are loving talk to them. You definitely need all kinds of support from them.Also, through away your guilt.You are not responsible for it and you were too young to protect yourself. All your physical symptoms lies in this incident.You need a thorough physical/medical checkup and psychological counselling. I also recommend for some yoga exercise and meditation. You are not alone at the same time be brave.

Answer 7

Sweetie I am so sorry that you had to endure that. I would recommend going to a doctor.. sorry but i have two types I would recomend.. 1) OBYGN.. 2) a psychologist..
They could really help you.. I hope that everything turns out in the end. Best of luck, wishes, and hope is sent to you for you strength.

Answer 8

the homoeopathic Medicine
Sepia 1 m single dose followed by the Arnica 30 b.d.* 4 pills* 5 days c improve ment good luck .reply

Answer 9

Your an adult now and only you can get yourself help for this. Severe depression can cause physical symptoms of aches and pains.

Go see a psychiatrist. You don't have to talk to your parents about it, but you do need medical help.

Answer 10

The best thing you can do for yourself is seek counseling. It will be very difficult to get a solution yourself or from people on here.