I frequently go to the local leather bar because I like bears and leather. Im not that into kink but its fun to watch. Every once in a while a couple will come in and a man with a leather hood will get tied up to the wall and his master will sit back and watch as he sits there tied to the wall for 3-4 hours. People will come touch him or play with his nipples or something and his master seems to be ok with it. One day I was grabbing the guys head and kind of pushing him around. Then I asked him if he liked it and he shook his head no. I just walked away because I didnt want to bother him but at the same time I wondered if it was just part of the act and he was trying to give me the sadistic sense of power. Anyone know about this kind of thing?
2006-10-05 05:11:42 · 12 answers · asked by stevepuff19 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The guy was a leather-slave. His job is to do whatever his master tells him to do, including licking his boots, crawling on the ground, and being a sexual toy to whoever his master designates. The humiliation is part of the fetish. In as much; the slave more than likely didn't like it but wanted to please his master. Next time ask the master what is appropriate.
Check this out:
1. The Master/slave relationship is a complex one requiring a serious commitment to honest and open communication, and the practice of learned responsibilities for the care and protection of each person's well being, psychological, physical, sexual, social, and emotional health. you can protect both you and your Master's participation through the use of selected safe words (like 'yellow' and 'red') and gestures (such as tight hand holds, wiggling of a limb, or opening of a hand). Don't ever be afraid to use them or think that you are not supposed to - especially if you are in your first experience. Expect to be tested by your Master so that you are made aware of your limitations for your sake and His.
2006-10-05 05:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If the master had wanted you to stop, he would have said so. A good master takes care of his property, and will not let it be hurt or misused. You should normally ask permission of the master to touch his slave, but if he has made it clear the slave is available to the bar for play, then you may proceed.
The whole fantasy is that the slave gives up all control to the master. The master can use the slave any way he pleases, up to the limits set by the slave. Yes, slaves are actually more in control than the master!
Slaves also have a safe word that they can say to their master to stop all action. This is usually something that you wouldn't say - like "GREEN". It is accepted that resistance and groaning, saying no, don't, stop or whatever are part of the game.
2006-10-05 07:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is inappropriate to do anything with a slave without getting permission first from the Master. After all, the slave is his "property," not yours.
I would suggest you learn some manners if you are going to continue to frequent places such as leather bars, where it is expected. Also, there are terms for people who dress up in leather and go to leather bars but don't really mean it, but I will hold my tongue.
2006-10-05 05:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have seen a lot of this in Florida... Two things, he is not a loud to talk to you, so asking his feelings at the time would never happen...It might have been a submissive thing though... They are not suppose to make eye contact with anyone either... It is kind of hot to watch, but 3-4 hours is excessive. he probably was not having the best of time period....
2006-10-05 06:03:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why do people who are into S&M/leather or whatever call themselves gay? This has nothing to do with sexual attraction and love with the same sex. This is some other mental issue. And also this is peculiar to the gays in the western world, I dont think this applies outside the West. People are bitching about Foley disgracing homosexuals - what about this bullshit S&M stuff? this is not 'normal', this is not gay, such behaviour discredits gays. I wish such S&M people would not call themselves gay.
2006-10-05 06:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by reggaeboi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh, you got me there, cause you might be right and him saying that was just an invitation for something more, or maybe he was having a bad day, why don't you ask someone at the bar
2006-10-05 06:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No means no. Even if it may be an act, it is wrong to continue if someone tells you they dont like it.
2006-10-05 05:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
He really wanted you to grab some darts and aim for the nuts.
2006-10-05 06:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by noname 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have no idea but the story was kind of erotic!
2006-10-05 06:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
joel is right
he would have liked his nipples tweaked though i am sure!
2006-10-05 05:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by ☺Everybody still loves Chris!♥▼© 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋