I believe it is the fondation of any relationship. How about you?
2006-10-05 05:03:17 · 34 answers · asked by St.Anger 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it is very important, but not something that is attainable by all. Maybe that is just me making excuses for my own mistakes, but sometimes, it is better to do these things to get it out of your system and to make the relationship better.
2006-10-05 05:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
It is extremely important, yet only to the extent that it is expressed or directly asked for. Keep in mind fidelity is not a tangible item, yet an act of strictly observing promises made; loyalty; and/or conjugal faithfulness.
The area of abuse most often is in the arena of sexual fidelity. Here most abuse occurs from both men and women. There most often is a "hidden agenda" which dictates what is really important to the offender and precludes them to representing themselves as wanting one thing when really there is a want of greater importance than what is really being communicated. Men wanting sex from a woman tells her he loves her (and many other things) to win favor and get what he wants (sexually) and women do like wise. My firm belief, without getting to long and drawn out or sounding like a, "fuddy duddy", is in conjugal faithfulness when it comes to fidelity. Even then it is no guarantee.
Fidelity is important and it should be asked for up front in any relationship.
2006-10-05 06:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by 5heartbeats 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fidelity isn't the foundation, trust is. You can find couples who have an "open" relationship (they can see other people) and they trust each other to be open and honest about it and they often have a stronger bond than some couple who's been together for 50 years and never cheated, just lived their life day in and day out going through the motions and resenting it.
If you can trust the person you're with, fidelity means nothing.
2006-10-05 05:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I agree. Fidelity is the simplest and most basic form of trust, I think. Everything else builds on the faith and trust that your significant other will be faithful. If someone can't stay faithful, what's the point in being married at all?
2006-10-05 05:05:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very important, unfortunately we are only human here and we grow and change through our lives. I think the truly committed people do what is needed for the relationship. If not then the burden will be off balance and then crumble. If it is not exciting for one, then both need to figure out what is wrong.
2006-10-05 05:20:47 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me, I trusted my husband implicitly until he had a very brief but intense encounter with a 13 year old family friend. I have since forgiven him but find it very hard to trust him now, though I love him, I find myself not taking anything he says for granted without checking or confirming for myself. Previously what he did when he did and where he went never bothered me. Infidelity brings some additional weight to a relationship if you choose to stay with that partner I think life was simpler when I trusted him.
2006-10-05 05:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Science 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, fidelity is a vital element. Without it there can be no trust, there is no security in that person or in that relationship. Without it.........the relationship is just.....casual.
I never could be with a person who betrayed me in that way. I am someone who could stick around until the end.......but infidelity has ALWAYS been a deal breaker.
2006-10-05 05:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by lilac b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its part of the whole trust, caring, love relationship so it is the foundation. You have to wonder, if you love someone, how you could hurt them the way you do when they find out you cheated on them. And they will find out.
If you love someone, you aren't interested in the physical act of cheating because it comes in second to the joy of sex with someone you love, and why settle for second best?
2006-10-05 05:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it is the foundation... fidelity is more like the pinnacle or the end product of what the realtionship is built on... things like love, trust, respect, friendship, commitment, etc if these things exist between 2 people... they inevitably are faithful to each other.
2006-10-05 05:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by Shane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is...
Fidelity is living up to the promises, agreements and understanding between the two partners....Whatever these agreements may be.
2006-10-05 05:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋