When we are in the bar he doesn't give me hugs anymore. doesn't want to kiss me anymore and just doesn't act the way he use to.. I'm not sayin that I want him up my a** but showin a little affection would be nice. He shoots pool on wed night on a league, and lastnight I wasn't able to go. well a friend of his was tellin me that lastnight he asked this one girl we know for a hug, and he sat around and talked to her.. It hurt my feelings because he doesn't do that with me anymore. I asked him if he liked her and he said no that if he did he wouldn't be with me. I know he's never cheated but why is he acting like this. could it be he's too comfortable in the relationship and knows i'm not goin anywhere so he think's that it's ok for him to hug other girls and all.. How can I get our relationship the way it used to be..
2006-10-05 05:03:10 · 13 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hunny, he shouldn't be hugging any other girl besides, you, his family members, his really close friends that you know, and his mother...If he is not showing you as much affection as he used to then its time for you to start playing the same game...usually (from experience) when a woman backs off from their boyfriend and the boyfriend realizes they really don't have her by the balls, they come back, trust me....otherwise let him go.
2006-10-05 05:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by skeptical 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why is his so-called friend telling you this bad news? I'll bet his friend wants to get in your pants. Never take someone else word for it. Simply thank them for the info and discuss it with your BF. So what if BF did hug someone? Well, you know, I've been married almost 20 years and no, we aren't smoochy all the time. Take the initiative and go get a hug or a kiss for pete's sake? Stop waiting on him-stop pouting about how it's stale. DO SOMETHING! Your relationship will never be what it was in the begining because it grows and evolves. I would hope that two people in a relationship could feel secure that the other isn't going to just up and leave. maybe he's a bit comfortable, but is that so bad? Good lord, I have much more going on than worrying if my husband got a hug!
2006-10-05 12:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you will find a better answer than mine to your problem.
Men are always attracted to other women. Ask ANY other woman. Ask any man (who will be honest with you) Its the nature of men's essence. You cannot hope that he will cease to be attractied to and aware of other women - he will never have eyes only for you - or for her, or the next one either.
The best thing for you is to decide if what he is giving to you within your relationship is enough for you. Its not going to get better. You can see where this is headed. Even if he corrects his behavior and becomes affectionate with you for a while it will pass. What you're describing now is what it is, and will continue to be.
Maybe its time to find a new BF who will want to flirt with you, hug you and etc. like he used to, and like he is now doing with others.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-05 12:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you asked him about the girl, but take it a bit further. You need to tell him everything you've told us...that you're feeling hurt that he doesn't hug you and kiss you anymore and that it makes you feel unloved. Even tell him that you trust him and you care about him and you miss that feeling of being cared for in return.
2006-10-05 12:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you trade talking to him about this things that are happening detuwin you had him does he really like this girl that he meat her lasnigth well the only thing that I could tell you is to evestegeat him and go in side in your own car and follow him were hever he goes and if hes really sheating then you dont have another showes but to liv him
2006-10-05 12:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by lparacely l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel I know you DO NOT!! want to be anyones doormat.If he is not happy with you he need to be a man and tell you this.If you don't confront this it will continue to get worse.Be assertive you could have so many othre options he is not the only man in this world
2006-10-05 12:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by keishahayes2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's getting bored. It may be the time in the relationship where you ask him if he would like to see other people. It could be the best thing for both of you.
You know what they say. "If you love him, set him free, if he comes back, he’s meant to be.”
2006-10-05 12:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by bill m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him about it and if he does want it to be the way it was then leave him cuz he is comfortable with you and will start cheating soon.
2006-10-05 12:06:01 · answer #8 · answered by leglover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key for everything. Talk to him tell him how you feel.
2006-10-05 12:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Alan J 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just play like you've met some other guy and make him jealous
2006-10-05 12:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Nicolette G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋