My wife and I enjoy each other sexually, but she finds the vast majority of her pleasure from my hand masturbating her versus what we would like, my organ. She has to have my organ in her, but she really doesn't get going until I am finished and I start to work on her with my hand. We think it might be because she was single for so many years that that is kind of what she got used to. We hope somebody else can relate with this and provide us some suggestions as to how we can bring her that ecstasy with my organ at the same time I am enjoying her.
2006-10-05 04:58:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While you have your "organ" in her, use a little clitorous vibrator. I have the same problem with my boyfriend. This works wonders!!!!!!
2006-10-05 05:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by cjuyi99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For years the shrinks and medics thought that vaginal stimulation was simply "it". Then they discovered the role of the clitoris. Masters and Johnson, among others less publicly luminary, discovered that much of the clitoral stimulation in much of the normal intercourse practices was incidental to what men felt was the 'main event'. You are probably rubbing her the right way when you take a hand to it and possibly missing it entirely when doing your thing as it feels right to you. Your assessment may be right in regards to her history, but it could also simply be a matter of position in your pitch. I used to shift my body higher on her [sorry, my wife, I really don't know yours] when in the traditional man on top missionary position, which, after I was in, let every stroke gain as much contact as possible to the part that made her climaxes possible. Then again, if you are hitting her g-spot when doing it by hand, try vaginal entry doggy-style, which will give more likelihood of contact with that place on her while you do what pleases you.
2006-10-05 12:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women enjoy different things and some women need certain types of stimulation.
She may just be the type that needs direct clitoris stimulation.
There's nothing wrong with her.
I suggest you get some "toys" and hook them up to a car battery.
Rip that up big boy.
If you want to get freaky, you can dress up like her favorite animal.
I like the aardvark. That's just my thing.
I suggest you get everything ready before she comes home. Dress your place up like a jungle.
Get a CD of jungle sounds.
Dress up like her favorite animal.
Leave a stick of butter by the door with a note of where to "butter" up.
Then when she comes in with a confused look on her face and she is staring at the stick of butter, pounce her like a wild animal, rip off her clothes and go to work with the vibrator. This is why I said you should hook it up to a car battery.
That vibrator will work her like nothing you've ever seen before. Trust me.
So after you made her climax about 12 times, that's when the real fun begins.
You gotta rub her down with honey or barbeque sauce and eat her up. This will give her "organ" a chance to recuperate. During this time you can use your ding-a-ling. You'll have the opportunity to please the both of you. You'll get pleased from the stimulation and she'll be pleased because it'll be such a relief from the clitoral abuse from the vibrator.
Next, you get another vibrator. There's one that you'll have to get as a special order. It's called the clitor-kill 2000. It's hooked up with a chain saw motor.
This thing is crazy. Your woman will come so hard, she'll cry.
You'll jack that clitoris up so bad, she won't even remember what happened.
She'll be terrified with pleasure and fear at the same time.
She'll have nightmares and wet dreams, simultaneously, for weeks.
Your woman will love it.
2006-10-05 12:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by Sexual Chocolate 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simple. Reverse the order you are having your sexual activities. Start off with you stimulating her, from your brief statement it seems it takes longer for her to orgasm. Get her hyped and I mean hyped. Take your time. Touch her clit like she wants you to, tease her, go down on her, over and over and over... And then when shes at the breaking point insert... Again explore together. Does she like it hard and fast, a build up, or only slow. Does she want you to continue to masturbate her after you have penetrated? Have you tried having her masturbate herself for you and then insert when she is ready(kinky)? Or have her touch her clit during sex? Everyone's different, and likes different things. Sounds like you love each other and are willing to take advice. Listen to each others needs.. You have a whole lifetime to learn ;)
Hope this helps.
RM
2006-10-05 12:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by mint_ice_cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your hips MAN!!!
Ever seen a hula dancer?
Its not up/down or in/out that works. Its side ways movement that works like with a hula hoop just much slower and steady pressure with your pelvis against hers. It will stimulate her clit and that should get her over the edge. Remember you can vary the direction clock wise and counter clock wise, but if she liking what you are doing don't change direction.
Hope that helps.
2006-10-05 12:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what she needs to do is open her legs as wide as she can.You need to make sure your stimulating her clit ,you can do this by making sure your d*** is up more in that area and do it a little slow with harder thrusts.When your fully in give her the chance to rotate her hips so she can stimulate her clit.Trust me if you two do this right she will come!It might also help if she puts her butt on a pillow.
2006-10-05 12:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to purchase some books. However it is not unusual for women not to orgasm during intercourse. As long as your are making her happy it really does not matter what organ you use.
2006-10-05 12:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start her going first with your hand and after she starts cuming
then use your other organ...
2006-10-05 12:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
use both at the same time. stimulate her clit with your thumb while using your organ
2006-10-05 12:01:55 · answer #9 · answered by ndn_202 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to use your hand, your tongue and toys, create your own positions and just do what she says.
2006-10-05 12:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by Debra R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋