I am a 36 yr old mother of 2 teenage boys. I currently live with my fiance' and he has 2 children, 6 & 14. So, a total of 6 in our household now. Plenty of children to say the least. I've been on several different types of birth control and recently on the Nuva Ring which, apparently, didn't work for me. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and excited but scared to death all in the same breath. I'm even more scared of telling my fiance' and what his reaction will be. Any advise?
2006-10-05 04:50:50 · 23 answers · asked by 36secretary 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Take him aside and tell him. If you are going to get married to this man you need to be 100% honest with him. You could always set something up more suprisingly. Baby pasta, chicken or baby back ribs. Baby carrots, ya know all kinds of stuff that have baby in the name and then "accidently" leave a pregnancy test out where he can see it and once he has seen it walk up to him and tell him- hey, I think im pregnant!! Congrats and good luck!!
2006-10-05 05:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well congratulations! you are going to be a mommy again. I think that if you are going to get married anyway, it's not a problem. True, you do have 4 kids already, but everyone knows that birth control isn't 100% effective and every time you have sex, you are taking a chance of getting pregnant unless one of you are "fixed". My suggestion to you is to set up a romantic night for just the 2 of you and put a pacifer or something along those lines as table decoration. Then break/share the good news! GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-05 04:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grant you with fiance's moms and dads a small present. A onsie, and also you would possibly want to get like glittler or ink for garments or maybe with and write on it " toddler (your fiance's very last call)" they could ought to imagine about it, even with the indisputable fact that it is going to likely be a large supprise. seem and performance his daughter positioned on a t-blouse that asserts Im a large sister, or both!!! Congrats!
2016-12-04 07:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask him "how do you feel about having another child?" before you tell him that you're pregnant. That will only set yourself up for getting upset & having your feelings hurt when he says something negative. Just flat out tell him honey, you have to tell him sooner or later & the sooner the better.
When I was pregnant with my son (second child) I didn't say anything to my boyfriend, I just handed him the positive pregnancy test & waited for his response. You could try that, or if you don't think he would handle that very well then, like another person suggested plan a romantic dinner just for the two of you & just tell him.
Good luck & congrats.
2006-10-05 05:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by sweetamberwaves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would maybe put a steak on the grill, get him some beer, break out the adult toys, lotions....whatever....then tell him P.S. Stud, you are such a virile lover you defeated my Nuva Ring...I am 7 weeks pregnant with our baby...you are incredible....I dont know but I do know men like to feel like they are magnificent lovers and that their man yogurt is the most divine on the planet and we women crave it more than chocolate....I am not real good at this, wow, but congrats on the baby and I can tell you from experience that having one at this age is MUCH more enjoyable!!!!!
2006-10-05 06:23:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about getting a whole bunch of baby stuff and putting it in a box and writting to the new daddy on it or try a nice little card, with the preg stick in it and make sure it is one of those that say pregnant or not pregnant so then he will get the hint. I am sure he will be happy. Goodluck and CONGRATS
2006-10-05 04:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by embsmg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing your fiance, it's hard to say. Maybe just ease it on out there slowly. You could begin talking about babies or more children. Maybe ask him how he'd feel about having another child. He may get the hint right there.
I was training for a Breast Cancer Walk...60 miles in three days. My husband came home and I said, "I'm not going to be able to do the 3-Day."
"Why not?"
"Cuz we're having a baby."
2006-10-05 04:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a nice romantic evening at home without any kids around. Get him feeling pretty good with wine or champaign. Make sure he has a lot..then pop the question: How would you feel about having another child? Then give him more to drink. Keep is glass full. Then you being jubiliant says...Well,
Good luck. If he sees you happy, he might be too.
2006-10-05 04:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by tobeyp2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just come out and tell him at a time when it's just the two of you. He wouldn't have asked you to marry him if he didn't love ALL of you so you shouldn't worry about that. If he's that commited to you then you should have the confidence in him that he will be extremely happy. Good Luck
2006-10-05 04:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Chi1linVi1lain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your partner, it's his problem too!!! He should be happy , maybe it was not planned but it is a blessing. Maybe your the birth control didn't work, but still God knows why things happened..Talk to him he migth be surprise too but you should know him better & can more less ecxpect his reaction.... GOOD luck & best wishes !! CONGRATULATIONS TOO !!!
2006-10-05 05:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋