She is VERY immature. Last year she was very happy with a "My Little Pony" whose tail you could comb (that her grandmother gave her). She also still believes in Santa. She is in her first year at middle school. I just want her to act her age and fit in with her peers. This has been a problem between my husband and I. Help!!!
2006-10-05 04:46:23 · 23 answers · asked by paula j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't think there is really anything wrong with being immature if immature means childlike and filled with wonder. And i also think that when you give a gift, the purpose should be to please the person who is receiving, not to mold that person to your ideal.
That said, if she really truly enjoys toys and dolls give her that, But if you want to give her the next thing that would fit where YOU believe her stage of development should be, girls that age, in general, LOVE clothes, make-up, accessories..... other good ideas are books and art supplies. Good luck and remember the spirit of giving....
2006-10-05 04:52:13 · answer #1 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Are you calling her immature just because she still likes "My Little Pony" or does she act immature. Have you ever thought that maybe she like horses. I'm a grown woman and I love Elmo & Tweety Bird and my best friend loves The Care Bears. Why do you think that she wont fit in? The problem with the a lot of the children today is that they are growing up to fast. Let her mature at her own rate and don't try to force her to grow up when you feel that she should. By the way if you're worried about what to get her for Christmas why don't you be more mature and ask her what she'd like?
2006-10-07 08:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I played with My Little Ponies until I was 12... U_U I'm 28 now, and in perfect mental health! (*twitch*) ;) Okay, but seriously, I don't think it's a problem if she enjoys toys like that (it's certainly better than being one of the 12 year olds who are already having sex! See other questions in the Adolescent section... it's not near as rare as you may think!), although it does seem a little strange to still believe in Santa. Are you positive she does? I mean, my sister and I always put out stockings for "Santa" to fill up, but we always knew it was actually our parents.
Anyways, a gift card for a store like "Claire's" would probably be *great*. Kids her age *love* that store, and it has stuff like jewellery and journals and bags and things.
So maybe that's a store you two can both agree on. :)
2006-10-05 17:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Japandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her gifts that SHE will like not gifts someone else would like! She may be immature for her age but she will grow up wayyyy too fast once she hitas highschool so enjoy her the way she is now! I always get my son a Visa Gift card from US bank and he loves going shopping and picking some of his own stuff out! Girls ALWAYS love stuffed animals- Im 40 and like them! lol So find her a giant stuffed animal- doesnt have to be a teddy bear- they have tigers-lions and all kinds now! Xmas is all about the kids so get her things that make her happy! You could get a wicker basket and fill it with bubble bath-makeup appropriate for her age-hair ties and ribbons and girly things like that! She will grow up all in good time!
2006-10-05 22:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 11 year old sister and an 11 year old niece. They really like CD's and movies and gadgets. I also just got my neice a gift card to bath and body works and she loved it. She got all kind of stuff and they have a great line for young girls. About her still believing in Santa....it isn't unheard of. My niece is also really immiture and still believes in santa and she's 11. I think that is too old. It is about time she figure it out! Well, good luck.
2006-10-05 12:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's immature for liking what she likes and not being ashamed?
If anyone is immature, it's you for trying to change who she is.
I am twelve years old. I like barbies. I have a bunch of stuffed animals on my bed. I still believe in Santa. I am in my second year of middle school. I fit in with everyone, although I do shame you for encouraging her that being like everyone else is good. You're a horrible parent.
P.S. Clothes are a big no-no. When my relatives get me clothes, I actually have to pretend that I like it. DDD: It's bad.
2006-10-05 19:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her enjoy her childhood as long as possible - trust me, soon you'll be missing these very innocent days. Pushing her into growing up simply won't work - she will do it when it is her biological time and not before. Enjoy this pre-adolescent age for exactly what it is: she has one foot still firmly in childhood and one testing the waters of being a teenager. At 13 my son demanded his right to a later bedtime. Eyes blazing he laid out all his arguements (including how my rules violated his basic human rights). I agreed with him and we negotiated a truce. Then I said goodnight to him before heading off to bed myself. He stood shocked and said, "Aren't you going to tuck me in?" At 12, another son comes home from school, grunts hello, grabs stuff from the fridge, slams his bedroom door, and music comes blaring on. But in between the songs I can hear him saying "pow! pow! argh!" and making fighting noises as he plays with his super hero action figures. These really are magical times - treasure their sweetness. As her stepmom, if she FEELS your acceptance as she is now, then she will know that you will be there for her when she may need you later on.
As far as believing in Santa, she probably knows deep down what the truth is. Let her work this one out on her own. If she comes to either you or your husband and asks for the truth, then tell it to her honestly: that you also believe in Santa! That Santa is not so much a person as he is the "spirit of Christmas", etc.
Oh, for presents, have her make a "wish list". We do this for everyone in our family, including adults. Everyone makes a list of things they would like (minimum 10 things), big/small, expensive/under $10 bucks, whatever. Just make it clear that putting it on a list doesn't mean that the person will get it, it just gives everyone an idea of the types of things that person likes. (although, you usually end of getting one or two of the things you listed)The lists get stuck to the fridge so everyone is able to check it out. This also really helps when grandparents, or whoever, ask what to get someone for Christmas/birthday, etc.
2006-10-05 14:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by zenobia2525 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be happy she is immature. some of these 12 year olds scare me. i have a 12 year old and she isn't into little ponies though. she enjoys making jewelry, a purse, makeup, anything at Claire's. See if she is into collecting stuff and get her something to add to it. my daughter loves music and posters and books. she writes in a journal, so that's something nice with a cute pen. Clothes are a biggie too.
2006-10-05 12:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be thankful that her innocense is still present, now adays girls that age are doing drugs and having sex and getting pregnant!!!! If she is still playing with dolls and ponies maybe you should take her to like a store that sells collectables and start her collecting some of the things that she likes it might be a hobby she will really enjoy.
2006-10-05 12:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Christina B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a gift certificat to get a pedicure. Maybe you go with her and possibly take a friend along.
Get her some board games that are in between little girl and teenager. Like Girl Talk, Shopping Games, etc.
What do her parents/dad think about her wearing make up? Maybe get her some play or real make up. Give her make up lessons. Little girls love this and it will also help her grow up.
2006-10-05 11:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by april_hwth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋