2006-10-05 04:38:59 · 13 answers · asked by cnikki 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
for all of you haters kick rocks because even if i was not married i could do what i want to. i have to deal with it not you.
2006-10-05 05:37:08 · update #1
How about trying to get married first? You really need a stable life before considering raising another life.
A baby does change a lot of things. You really need to show a commitment before you try to start a huge responsibility and commitment. Do you know your boyfriend is going to stay? If so why has he not mentioned marriage yet? Do you both work and make enough money to care for this child and all the needs? Do you all have medical insurance to cover you while in the hospital, and on maturnity leave?
There are a lot of questions you need to ask yourself before you are ready to "produce". Don't be selfish and try to get what you want.... Be unselfish and make sure you and your boyfriend can give this child everything he or she will need. It is a lot more than what you think. Food, medical bills, time off work to go on doctor visits, maturnity leave, clothes, bottles, diapers, food, furniture, wipes, medicine for when they are sick, lack of sleep because the child does not sleep but 2 hours at a time if that.
Are you really ready for this? Is your boyfriend ready for this commitment? If so then try the commitment of marriage first. Play house for a while then when you get the hang of it... and are financially stable try for a child!
And to you Ms SR22 (user who is screaming at everyone) That may not be what the person asked and you may not feel marriage has anything to do with it but I will tell you one thing!
They need to make sure their relationship is going to work before trying to have a child! If they cannot commit to one another how in the hell do you expect them to commit to a child! Do you feel it would be fair for that child to be raised in the middle of nothing but arguing, back-stabbing, using the child against one another, being in a torn family all because they didnt test the waters first??? NO.. I think that would be selfish. I think they would only be trying to cure their baby fever that hits almost every woman at one point in their life or the other! You may not even know how old this person is! They could be 14, 16, 15 and your trying to tell them to make love to their boyfriend??? You dont even know if he wants the baby to!
Think about that a bit before you start using your "caps lock" key to tell everyone off!
2006-10-05 04:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend an I were together for 2 years, and having sex with no birth control, and we finally got pregnant 2 years later and I just had our second two weeks ago, So, All I can say is hang in there, have fun trying and when it is meant to be it will be.
2006-10-05 07:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU KNOW IT IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS IF SHE IS MARRIED OR NOT. SHE IS ASKING A QUESTION ABOUT CONCIEVING. BEING MARRIED HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GETTING PREGNANT. Anyway now that that is taken care of I suggest that you just make love to your hubby. Stop trying to just make a baby. Be intimate and watch your schedual. Mabey look at getting onto prenatal pills. good luck
2006-10-05 04:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Get married first, make sure the both of you are ready for a child and start thinking with some commen sense first. You shouldn't be bringing a child into this world unless you are sure that both of you can provide for it.
2006-10-05 04:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
my ex b/f and i were together for 4 years we always had unprotected sex and i never got pregnant even though he never pulled out.....recently i went to the doc because i was very irregular on my periods so they gave me birth control (hormonal imbalance)...maybe you have some type of hormonal imbalance too isuggest you go see a Doc. first....that's my problem right now.....me and my fiance are trying for a baby so lets see what happens......good luck to you....
2006-10-05 04:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to these people...you dont need a piece of paper to tell you that you can have kids...me and my boyfriend had sex all the time for about a year and finally i became pregnant...it could take a healthy couple a year to conceive...good luck hun
2006-10-05 05:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by qnzprincess4689 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you should get married first and then worry about having kids.
2006-10-05 04:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get married first!
2006-10-05 04:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sonyja 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it took me 6 mons, i think u need to do it everyday on the days u are most fertile
2006-10-05 05:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You skipped a step-get married.
2006-10-05 04:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by ...mr2fister... 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋