Okay i want to be with my boyfriend so badly but I don't think he feels the sameway mean sometimes I believe him then sometimes I don't I mean when i speak my mind he's always hanging up I mean he tells me all the time that he loves me and I said if we was to ever break up what would happen he said I will always have a special place in my heart for you I just feel like I'm losing him. I'm slowing down because he was my first. That's why he think I'm not going nowhere I just want to know should I call him or give him space and let him call me. And I also want to know ways on not calling him first because he know I always call do
2006-10-05 04:31:51 · 9 answers · asked by Scooby_doo06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Relationships can get rocky...and they almost always do.
Regardless of how much love there is between the two of u, neither of u can crowd eachother.
My advice to u is to give him space. Don't call him...let him call you. Not only will this give him some time to breathe, but by u not calling as much, he'll be able to realize how much he misses ur presence or ur voice.
I've been there b4 myself, and nothing is a better teacher than experience. If u back off of him, although it may take him a little while to realize wat's going on, he'll begin to see that you're not as hooked to him as he thought (even if u are). He'll begin to worry, cuz I'm sure he doesn't want to lose u, and he'll look at it like, "If she's not calling me, then she must be talking to somebody else."
2006-10-05 04:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh sweetie, I am sorry your having aproblem. This is what you should do, you say to him that you want to be with him, and that you love him (if you do).
Then you should just back off and let the relationship unfold, you havn't pointed to anything that would suggest that your relationship is in trouble, when he talks about if you were to ever break up, just say to him that you aren't thinking like that ,and that you want this to work.
And if you both want it and work hard at it your relationship will last. Talk to your boyfriend openly and honestly about why you feel the way you do, and ask him for re-assurance that you two are ok. If he loves you as he says he does he should have no problem giving you some form of reassurance.
My dear, life is full of ups and downs, and you shouldn't waste it by looking around for things to go wrong, things will work out the way they are suppose to. Trust me.
Good luck my dear, and I hope this helps.
2006-10-05 11:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Teclis98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you're really in pickle! i think u should let him be the one to call u first this time round. What kind of a boyfriend is he if he hangs up when u have got something to say? If he asks why u didn't call just tell him that so far it is always u being the one to pick up the phone. A relationship takes two to tango. He has got to play his part to the fullest!!!
2006-10-05 11:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would help to know how long you have been together. Relationships are not always golden. We all dream of that perfect partner, who will satisfy us in every way possible. Draw more focus on yourself, Maybe it will help you take your mind off wanting to call him the whole time. Maybe you can hang out with friends.
2006-10-05 13:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dushyanthan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to him i know this sounds stupid but he may just be scared of the outcome of a relationship if he has had something go really wrong in the past. But you guys need to talk but he may be over you two but it is never safe to assume when your talking about someone the you love and may love you back.
2006-10-05 11:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by :Dloveee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Scooby, you must be kind of young. Don't fret though, things get easier as you get older. Sounds like you need to find someone more mature for now, so I'd just move ahead.
2006-10-05 14:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by babalu2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, he obviously wants to move on with his life. Let him go. If it were meant to be, he will come back. I know it's difficult and it hurts alot. But go out with girlfriends, write you feelings in a journal, do anything to keep distracted for awhile. It will pass, I promise. Go ahead a cry, but pull yourself up and get on with your life. Hugs
2006-10-05 11:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sweet precious thing....all the classic signs are here for you...sorry to say it but as they say the writing's on the wall.....he dosent feel the same for you as you do for him...please try to move on..i know it wont be easy...but you can do it babydoll
2006-10-05 11:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-10-05 11:36:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋