I accused my husband telephonically(he is in Pakistan,I am in the Netherlands)that he is in touch with some other woman.He got very angry and the line broke(card).Since this time when I am calling again he doesn't answer any of my phone calls.This is now going on for three weeks.He also doesn't e-mail me anymore.I don't know what to do,I am desperate.Our realtionship got so good before this but now??I feel really bad and cry a lot.
2006-10-05 04:29:58 · 13 answers · asked by Vancouver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he has not called or emailed in 3 weeks, he probably does have another woman.
2006-10-05 04:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you value your marraige? Do you think its worth fighting for? Has he ever cheated before? Do you want him back? Cause I think if you dont do something quick its over. Can you visit him? Send him a message thru someone else. Write him a letter. Tell him you are coming to see him to talk things over. Let him know you love him but you wont tolerate this kind of disrespect. Make sure you are right about your accusation. If not, be prepared to apologize. Stop crying and get acting.
2006-10-05 04:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what you said to make him angry, three weeks is a long time to not have contact with your spouse. Why are you in different countries?
It sounds like there are distance (not just physical) and communication issues here. I suggest counselling right away, but I think your relationship might be beyond saving at this point.
2006-10-05 04:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I'm SURE he is in contact with other women. Ever been on the yahoo pakistan chat??? You get all kinds on there. I visited the chat room once, that was enough for me!!! Honey, I think you can kiss this marriage goodbye. He has moved on. Why are you both in different countries anyway???? Not good for a marriage at all.
2006-10-05 05:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three weeks huh? Sounds beyond saving. My advice is that in your next relationship I'd be careful just what you accuse your new spouse with before knowing anything for sure.
Tough lesson learned huh? Better luck in the future.
2006-10-05 04:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to ask questions. Its all part of the relationship. Don't feel bad. He will get back to you. Never feel bad for asking alot of questions. You must have had good enough reason to ask him!! Be weary of listening to other people's rumors first see hard evidence or perhaps if you feel he's distanced himself thats fine. Just give him time.
2006-10-05 05:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake when you accused him of what you were not sure of. However, the fact that he is not contacting you doesn't stop you from doing so. Leave messages on his phone, and email box. If he loved you before he will contact you.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 04:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, HOW DO YOU KNOW THIS, SECOND OF ALL DO YOU HAVE PROOF? I MEAN YOU ARE WORLDS APART AND YOU ARE ACCUSING HIM? WHAT YOU DID WAS PISS HIM OFF, IF YOU DON'T HAVE CONCRETE EVIDENCE OR CAUGHT HIM YOURSELF YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE DONE WHAT YOU DID, NOW YOU ARE CRYING LIKE A BABY BECAUSE YOU WENT ABOUT IT THE WRONG WAY, DEAL WITH IT AND IF AND WHEN HE DOES CALL YOU OR PICKS UP THE PHONE FOR YOU, YOU MAKE IT YOUR BUSINESS TO NOT ASSUME STUFF THAT YOU AREN'T SURE OF!
2006-10-05 04:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never excuse someone if you don't know for sure. Now he is probably thinking your the one cheating. Good luck on trying to contact him...why don't you go for a visit? Good Luck!
2006-10-05 04:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to talk to you either.you sound kind of nuts.if you don't trust your husband why are you sad that he's not calling?look either trust or leave,stop picking the relationship apart.
2006-10-05 04:38:41 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋