Did you know that the screenwriter of Saw lived with his mother until he was 25 and then sold his scripts and made it big? Or that Dean Koontz the author made a deal with his wife in which she agreed to support him financially for five years and he would give up on his dreams if he hadn't succeded in those five years?
2006-10-05 04:15:09 · 19 answers · asked by horrorfan 3 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
No, I don't have a wife and nobody supports me. I had just read about this and wanted to see what people thought.
2006-10-05 04:29:56 · update #1
People make all kinds of deals with each other. I don''t think people who have made this type of arrangement are losers.
2006-10-05 04:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer for this would be the same whether you talking male or female. A relationship between two people is supposed to provide love and support (not just financially) and being equal partners in the relationship. This does not mean monitarily!!! If the woman is capable of successfully maintaining the home on a single income and has no problem with financially supporting the household, then I see nothing wrong with it. This is, of course, as long as there is SOME sort of contribution by the husband... being actively raising the children and up keep of the household and/or pursuing further education or actively working on something which can provide for the househole... same if a man is the only one working. The woman should be contributing something to the overall picture!!!
My best friend (guy) and his girlfriend (together since 10th grade) moved in together when she graduated junior college... he was in a four year, two years in.. She was able to get a paralegal job making enough to support them both while he finished school... in that time, she was promoted and pay increases out the wahzoo... sooo, she kept supporting b/c now he could afford time to get a masters... long story short... now she works part time for a lawyer (cuz she wants to... they do not have any kids and she would be bored) and he makes six figures easily affording to "take care of her"... give and take... it's a beautiful thing : )
2006-10-05 04:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is "what are you doing?"
Even if you stay at home while your wife works, what are you doing? The screenwriter of Saw was working. He was writing. Dean Koontz, he was working. He was writing. What are you doing?
If you taking advantage of your wife as she slaves away as you bum around all day, then you are a loser.
However, if you spend your days cleaning, fixing dinner, yardwork, etc., then you are a stay at home father. There's no shame in that.
But, if you sit around on the couch and veg, then you need some smacking around by your wife.
If you're unemployed due to unforseen circumstances, then it's a fact of life. However, you must make the effort to find another job. Make short goals like sending out 2 resumes a week or something like that. At least you're making the effort.
2006-10-05 04:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Scott D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what - they were in essence, working. It's not like they were sitting around doing nothing, they were working in trying to achieve a certain goal. Now a man over 24 who is not working and being supported by his wife while he does nothing? Yes, unless he is a stay-at-home dad, he is a big loser!!!
2006-10-05 04:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way that you could work a little and fulfill your dreams? Maybe you could work part time or freelance write. That way, you could pull your weight a little. It also gives you interesting fodder for your stories. My husband and I took turns -- he went to law school, now I'm considering working part time to write more. You're not a loser, you just have to find a balance the works for your family and isn't an unfair burden on your partner.
2006-10-05 04:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by coldsake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about two. One of which lived with a mother, not wife, and the other of which was a consensual agreement. Doesn't really work out most the time.
2006-10-05 04:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by t79a 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well do you and your wife have some kind of agreement? My 28 year old husband did not work for 2yrs. I was deployed to Iraq and he stayed home with our son. When we 1st met his dream was to have a house and a family. Mine is to have a career. So If I work And he stays home it is no big deal to either of us. As long as we are not struggling financially it is OK.
2006-10-05 04:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by wynbug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Well, how long would you wait to figure out she needs help too. Financial hardship is a major reason relatioships fail- maybe this 24 y.o. should just get a job and stop being guilty.
2006-10-05 04:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Uma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not working, then what is he doing? If he's just enjoying a free ride, then he's a loser. If he's pursuing something for the future, then maybe he's not. If he were my husband and not working he better be pursuing something grand or he's not going to be around very long
2006-10-05 04:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Evonne B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But those guys were actually doing something. In my opinion, if a guy is able to work and doesn't, then he's a loser. He's a bigger loser if he must rely on his wife to pay all their bills. And did I mention he's lazy as hell too?
2006-10-05 04:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋