I have been married for 3 months and I think my new wife is going to cheat on me. We went to the movies last night and I noticed that the guy next us was touching my wife's leg. I told him to move it or get it broken off he said she put his hand there.She denied it and got very upset at me for making a scene in the theater.Called me over-protective and jealous. should i have left it alone ?
2006-10-05 04:14:57 · 45 answers · asked by Why are you still here 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dekhiye ye hota hai ki hame hamare partener ki care hoti hai. aapne jo kiya sahi kiya koi b hota to yehi karta. lekin aapki wife ko shayad aapka hangama karna pasand nahi aaya. aapko pareshan hone ki koi jarurat nahi hai. aap us aadmi ko dheere se samgha dete ya bahar aane pe us se baat karte. jab aapko apni BV pe faith hai to koi kuchh b kare us se koi dar nahi hai.
2006-10-05 04:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Royalsoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that this guys hand was on your wife's leg and she did not say or do anything to stop it the very first second it happened means she did not mind at the very least. When she called you over-protective and jealous because another man was touching her leg gives me the idea that he was telling the truth and perhaps she did put it there. Hell no you should not have left it alone, she got upset because she got caught and embarrassed. Man I hate to say it, but you need to start making preparations for ending it with her. If she has not cheated, she is going to and she will make it sound like your fault that she did or does...
2006-10-05 04:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, wait just a minute, and take a closer look at things. What did you wife say? Do know the guy in question? I think some guy was just trying to get your temper stirred. If you don't know this guy and your wife doesn't, then I would just let it go.
If your wife knows this creep, then that's another story. Why didn't she move his hand. I don't think she would invite some man to put his hand on her leg with you right next to her. She's proably embarrassed she didn't know what to do. I had a man bite me on the breast at a club one night. I was in shock, and just didn't know what to do. Then my husband put on a show, he went crazy. Most women like their husbands to defend them, but we just don't want to be around when they do it.
Please have a talk with your wife, and tell her how this guy made you feel, and tell her calling your over-protective and jealous didn't help matters. Your job is to protect her, and you have every right to be upset with some dick putting his hands on your wife. I think she needs to understand and realize that's not nice, and you blew. There is such a thing as being over-protective and too jealous, but I mean it was right there in front of you. She best be glad you didn't rip the guy's head off. I think you handled it better than most men.
Please talk to her, and explain this hurt you. And her unwilliness to explain and just complain really upset you. Tell her you know she's upset, but that she's your wife, and that is not proper and the guy pushed the line, and sometimes you have to push back.
Praying that you can get the need answers, and that your wife will realize how she hurt you, and that you can overcome this, and one day can look back and laugh about it......
God bless us all.................
2006-10-05 04:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did the right thing and I probably would have done more! sorry for being so blunt, violence or fighting is not the answer, however your wife sounds like a big flirt and if she didn't change her ways..I would divorce her. All you can do is tell her how you feel, if she really loves you and wants to be with you only she will stop what she's doing and love only you completely. Your wife should not get upset and she is wrong for getting mad or putting the guys hands there and even if she didn't she let him..so she had to not care and want to do it. Talk to her...Watch her... and then if she does not stop...Leave her! there's nothing worse then having a cheater for a spouse. If you can't trust them then obviously you don't need to be with them!
2006-10-05 04:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by my_beautifulbrown_eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, id say dump her, if i wasn't the forgiving kind, but i am, forgive her this once let her know if it happens again its over.. on the other hand, if she didn't try to move his hand she must have wanted it there. sometimes married women like forbidden fruit so to speak, if shes letting a guy touch her leg and you didn't notice and do something what would he be touching next? I'd think if she had no objections maybe they know each other well. ask tell her to be honest, see if its happened before. give her the ultimatum. no one touches you but me or its over, let her make the choice. either way it hurts, i feel for you, ive been cheated on by 3 exes. hope this helps a little. if need to talk im me at rose_angel_smiles@yahoo.com. I'm usually on from 6 pm to 12 am. ill try to help anyway i can. god bless you and if your a praying man pray about it god does answer prayers
2006-10-05 04:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been married for three months? You didnt say how long you were with this woman before you married her.The seating in these theaters now are very cramp and it might appear that they were flirting when she was just trying to get comfortable. I mean when you try to get out one of those seats you are touching each person in some manner. If this is the first sign I wouldnt over react wait and see if she start doing other things out of her norm. If you saw this happening I am sure it was just someone she was sitting next to.Before you react make sure you have proof .
2006-10-05 04:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife seems to be a professional manipulator. No husband in their right mind would let another man put their hands on their lady at all. You should have broken his hand and stuck it in his mouth. Your wife is wrong on this one. My only perception is what is she doing while you are not with her. If she gets in a situation where she and another man are alone. I do not blame you for being hurt. What I would do is I would tell her if she is going to conduct herself in this kind of behavior, that you would leave and go your own way. I would not live like this, and you do not need to live like this either.
2006-10-05 04:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope sounds like you have a bad 'un there. Ignore all the zealots and religious nutters who post saying "but give her a chance she is for life a marriage is sacred" She should have though of that before hitting on this guy in the dark. You know half the neighbourhood are getting BJ's and anal from her whilst you are at work. Leave now, have some self respect. God Bless You xx
2006-10-05 04:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing by addressing the issue. For now you also need to believe your wife's denial. However I would be cautious because of her reaction. It sounds to me as though she doesn't like being with only one man. Being married she should have been just as upset as you if she didn't put his hand there, and she should be grateful for your defense not angry. Personally if a man other than my husband did that I would slap him.
2006-10-05 04:25:33 · answer #9 · answered by bvml 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you are in a no win there. Your wife might have gone nuts if you didn't stick up for her. You guys need to talk,and you need to find out if she is happy. I don't think its over protective and jealous for you to be concerned another man is touching her up, but it does depend how you address the issue. Most women dont like violent situations, you might have scared her a bit.
2006-10-05 04:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should've said anything to the guy. Your wife has sense of touch and she knows when someone has there hands on her. You should've had the problem with her. You are not over protective protect your heart and get rid of the tramp. It doesn't take anyone to tell you your mate is cheating
2006-10-05 04:18:03 · answer #11 · answered by april j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋