I really want our marrige to work and I will do almost anything to get it to work. She does not sleep in the same bed anymore and I have a hard time with that. I really have changed and I hope that it is not too late.
2006-10-05 04:14:03 · 10 answers · asked by phillipsdaved 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
start from the beginning and take her out on dates,get to know each other all over again
2006-10-05 04:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to stop lying. Really and honestly, no more lies. Then, you need to show her that you have changed. Not tell her, because even if you've given up lying that doesn't mean she is at the point where she can believe anything you say.
It will take time, and you have to be patient. Be the best husband you can be. If that isn't enough, or it is too late, you'll know soon enough.
2006-10-05 11:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good you want to get this off your chest, and that is what you need to do, sit your wife down and tell her, we need to talk, some of it she already knows, women are smart, I will bet you, all along she had a idea! But tell her that you want to come clean, and that you love being married to her, and of course that, you did not know what to hell you was thinking, but you are so sorry, and that now you miss her so much, you miss not being able to sleep along side of her, and that you, more then anything want her back, you want a strong loving relationship. Now if she is having a hard time with all of this, then you need to ask her, if she is as willing as you are, to try and save this relationship? And if she is then the two of you need to go to a counselor!
2006-10-05 11:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really difficult for a woman to trust someone who has been lying to her for 17 years. Just because you feel that you have changed and deserve a second chance doesn't mean she will give you that. You say that you would do "almost" anything to make it work. If you really want to make it work you would do anything and everything in your being to make it work.
2006-10-05 11:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is sleeping in another bed, that is a REALLY BAD sign. But if you really have changed, it will take time for her to see that. Marriage counselling would be a good idea. Let her know that you want to work it out. Be honest with her and confess all your past wrongs to her. Confession is good for the soul.
2006-10-05 11:18:47 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy of 5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you better talk to her then. I would tell her that you want to save the marriage. If she agrees, then go for it, and work on it. If she doesnt agree, then you might as well file for divorce, cuz if youre already sleeping in different beds, then its pretty much over.
2006-10-05 11:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Whats your question?
2. What kind of lies are we talking about?
3. Have you had an actual conversation with her about this?
4. Have you sought marriage counseling?
2006-10-05 11:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is be yourself, try to earn her trust back,and don't try to hard,to where it'll seem fake! it has to be from the heart,and their has to be some communication that is the key,you have to be able to do that ,and don't douse the flame,by lying.
2006-10-05 11:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by jae m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
words are cheap. you can tell her you have changed until you are blue in the face. but if you don't demonstrate the change why should she give you a chance?
2006-10-05 11:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by amy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to move back in or you will replace her fat @***
2006-10-05 11:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋