i swear it was like the night we got married i was done, didnt want anything to do with him sexually, dont get me wrong my drive is still there....
2006-10-05 04:09:42 · 17 answers · asked by b utter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i got the answer add porn lol..
thanks for all the great answers ...
2006-10-05 10:57:44 · update #1
Having read your previous question, and the question you asked after this one, I’ll try to put the pieces together to see what I can work out…
In your previous question, you mentioned that you got married three months ago to your daughter’s father…
You mentioned that you want a divorce, and that you don’t think you like the word ‘marriage’…
Prior to getting married, you kept telling him that you didn’t want to get married, and only did so because he and his mother kept pushing you…
You now wake up every day thinking that you got married for him, his family, and your daughter, and that you know you are miserable…
You finished the question by stating that he is an A+ father and a sweet husband, but you feel there is someone out there who is better suited for you.
In the question you asked after this one, you mention that you are a newly wed, and attracted to horribly attracted to another.
I’m not sure what I should suggest to you…
I don’t want to be ‘rude’ and suggest that you stop being so selfish, and grow up…
But the fact is that you have a beautiful daughter who you should be concerning yourself about. She has a father who loves her very much, and the very least they deserve from you, is some ‘respect’!!!
Perhaps you can take some of your own advice…
This is the response you gave to someone else’s question…
“hell yeah break up with him he sounds like he doesnt respect u at all., there are better men out there trust me.…”
It doesn’t sound like you have any respect toward your husband, so perhaps it is he who should be thinking about dumping you !!!
This is another response you gave to someone else’s question…
“hi... i find its true in my case i got married 3 months ago but i was only 80% sure about it in the first place i found i felt like i was stuck but hey thats just me…”
80% is a hell of a lot better than 0%, and it doesn’t sound to me like you were ‘pushed into’ doing anything….
What did they do… hold a gun to your head and say if you don’t marry him you are dead???
I guess your Wedding Vows didn’t mean much to you !!!
Take a look at that beautiful little daughter of yours…
Does she love her daddy ???
She is only a baby, yet she can show more affection than what you can !!!
I’m glad to hear your ‘sex drive’ is still there…
Target it where it belongs !!!
2006-10-05 04:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Butacup,
what is it that u r not happy w him??
Is it that he is not performaning in bed according to yr expectations?? If u have yr fantasies, pls share w yr hubby n explore n spice up yr life.
get the courtship feeling back into yr relationship
Why many relationships fail is bcos the moment they get married, the couple feels that ok, i have got him or her n thats the end. i dun need to put in extra effort any more
Thats very wrong.
A good marriage is a combined effort to make things happen n to strengthten n understand each other better
Trust me. If u really luv this guy, make an effort to make this marriage work. Otherwise u should ask yrself why in the world u married him?? Pressure ?? or pleasure??
Ponder over what i have mentioned n search yr heart for the answer. u will find it.
Take Care n cheers !!
2006-10-05 04:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by cuntlicker1388 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the show 20/20 a week or 2 ago, they mentioned that for most women attraction is all mental. I agree with one of the previous answers that now that you have him, it's not the same, the chase is over. Some people need that mental stimulation to keep interested or find other ways to keep things going. That's my belief, I am no psychologist.
2006-10-05 04:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by MOD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your drive is still there but you dont have the drive to move forward with him, what i try to say is dont play with marriage if you dont know what it is, think about others thing rather than sex....what made you to marry him from the beginning? what else did you find him attractive? use these positive things to drive your sex life better....the man loved you and i hope he still love you for who you are not just sex. why can't you do the same thing with him? you have to think about your future like kids , good life, happiness beside sex...real world is yes we need sex some times but not because of that you'll throw your whole beautifull life a head of you away..... what if your daughter has the same problem down the road? what would you advise her? so good luck and please have a good conversation with your husband about your problems that's the best thing to keep people happy
2006-10-05 06:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by kevin n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your last two questions, I am guessing you did not really find him all that appealing to begin with and did not want to marry him. Sounds like you were pressured into getting married and now you regret it. You sound like you feel caged by your marriage to this guy. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he does not like you either and perhaps there is something you two can work out and it not get ugly.
2006-10-05 04:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sad mami, it must be something psychological. Either you jumped into it too quick, or maybe the idea of marriage is what brought you down, and him along with it.
Or maybe he changed when you got married, like he got comfortable when he knew he had you locked down, and showed his real side, which you might not find attractive.
Meanwhile holler at me, I got something that'll get your mind off of those problems.
2006-10-05 04:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by maneone22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what did you find attractive in him to marry him. I dont understand it seems like you married for the wrong reasons.
2006-10-05 04:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I am sooooo glad I am not your husband, that would hurt me to no end. Didn't you know what you were getting into before you married him? Afterall, you married him for a reason didn't you?
2006-10-05 04:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem. You need counseling. This will end your marriage and might be a pattern for any future marriage.
Go get it figured out
2006-10-05 04:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by campojoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you wanted a wedding and not a real husband. Poor guy!!!! Let him go and find someone who really adores him.
2006-10-05 04:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋