ok!before me and my boyfriend moved,whenever we hung out with my relly good friend i would always look at my boyfriend and he would be completely staring at my friend.she would even look at him and he would keep staring.usually when you get caught staring at somebody you look away really fast.ya know?but he wouldnt,and i mean he would be staring at her for hours and hours.the whole time we were hangen out.does that mean he wants her or what?i need some help.i asked him about it and all he would say was he wasnt looking at her at all,but me and my friend saw him.so whats going on with that.and now that we moved,i introduced him to one of my new friends and he stares at her now.i caught him looking down her shirt and all.i mostly just want to know if he wants my friend back home.cause if you stare at someone that long doesnt it mean you are really attracted to them?this may sound like a stupid question and i am not some young girl so dont tell me to grow up.i want a guys opinion on this.
2006-10-05 04:04:48 · 12 answers · asked by jenny p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am no shrink but sounds to me like he's rather rude or maybe has some mental health issues. It's certainly not normal to stare at someone for long periods of time as it usually makes the person feel uncomfortable. As for trying to get a peek down her blouse, well that's pretty normal I think. Speak with your boyfriend and ask why he does this and let him know how much it offends and bothers you. Maybe he's not aware of this habit and will try and correct it or at least become aware of it.
2006-10-05 04:09:38 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you probably have attractive friends. Nothing you can do about that. I think there is a good chance you are the one over reacting about this since you refer to him as "staring for hours and hours" which is obviously an exaggeration. People can look and notice that a person is attractive without fantasizing about them. Not that I am saying for sure what is going through his mind, however. If he's never done anything in regards to cheating on you before, then maybe it's nothing. If you have other reasons to think he might, then you should be worried. As far as looking down a girl's shirt, that usually takes a conscious effort NOT to, and if he's never stopped that reflex then your dumping him should do it.
2006-10-05 05:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by jbrowning001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, when I stare at someone like that there are three possible reasons I can think of why I stare.
1. She's pretty and I'm thinking about sex with her.
2. She's pretty and I'm thinking about sex with another girl, 'pasting' the other girl's face on her body, possibly you or a friend for example.
3. I'm thinking about something completely different and unconciously stare without seeing anything.
I don't know if this helps at all, but these are the reasons I can think of for a guy staring at another girl.
2006-10-05 04:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by mjrbatou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It surely does happen, but it doesn't make it right.
95% of men are completely fascinated by breasts, and other parts of a female. Some, can't stare enough, which is your scenario.
Sitting him down, and telling him how you feel about it all, might change things. It could just be that he isn't that experienced with women, so breasts are a big deal.
If it makes you feel disrespected (which is totally understandable), tell him that. If he truly adores you, and wants to keep you, he will change his ways. His actions are his choice. Therefore, they can be controlled.
2006-10-05 04:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a man that does the same thing that your man does.trust me on this its not that he wants her he wants the both of you.any attractive female that you have a close relationship with is going to turn him on.just the thought of you be touched and pleased by the two people that loves you drives him crazy. he wants her more for you than for him self.if you don't believe me one day while shes not around and no has had a drink best if you do it at the dinner table. ask him would he like to have a three some with you and the girl.but tell him that he cant touch her unless you say so.watch his face he isn't going to care.he knows who and what he wants.
2006-10-05 05:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by equality 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep Jenny, you have it right. You should know that men are attracted to many women and much of the attraction is visual. Meaning we get turned on just by looking.
So yes, he was staring. But whether it was harmless admiration or true desire is only his to know.
How are you in the "keeping him satisfied" department. I guess that if you had taken care of him before the get-together, it was only admiration. So next time you are on your way to a get-together, make sure he spends his ammunition on you.
2006-10-05 04:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is attracted to your friend. BUT, being attracted to her and acting on that attraction are two diff things. So, I would not suggest you break up with him or anything. Guys look at girls, it happens. Staring like that is a bit over the top. I'd suggest you call him on it while he is doing it if it bothers you.
2006-10-05 04:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up...just kidding...well that sounds really strange and i'm sure there is something more then what he claims. A general rule of thumb is, if you're with your gf, you don't stare at any girl...sounds weird to me, it might just be a lustful thing and nothing more...he sounds weird to me
2006-10-05 04:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy but I cant help but answer the question. (sorry)
But if u catch him starring and he still did it, then maybe he was drifting off into space, maybe he was thinking about something else. I do that alot, I look at a person and that person reminds me of something else and I drift off. Its normal.
2006-10-05 04:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys love boobs. Don't worry. My girlfriend catches me all the time. She's used to it. She has great ones and she always has my attention. I look, but I don't touch. Not a big deal.
2006-10-05 04:09:13 · answer #10 · answered by chrisbode1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋