girl with crush on my husband?

Question

Ive been married for 8 years and thier is this girl that works with my husband that has a crush on him he kind of lead her to beleive we where having problems and he is not completely inocent but I for gave him and now we are working things out but he went out with his freinds and she showed up and then she told him she loved him he told me about this and thinks she is just confused but I think she is out to still out to get my husband. What would you do

Answer 1

ignore her, he's with you and he wants to be with you - it shud be flattering that someone else wants what you have..dont let it get to u, if u start becomming jealous and accusing him constantly he may start doing what u accuse him of...

Answer 2

There are three possible solutions to this dilemna. The first, and my favorite, is to solve this on national television. I highly recommend Jerry Springer, unless an illegitimate child is involved. Then the proper choice is Maury Povich. That way, not only can you confront her in person, and find out if your man is cheating, you can entertain millions and gain some notoriety in the process.
The second option is to hire a thug to drag her behind a dumpster and break her kneecaps with a hammer. This method only works if the person is clearly explained why they are being punished, and is convinced that continuing their behavior will lead to further punishment. Remember, the key is to be consistent!
The final option is to have your husband sleep with the girl and then profess his love for her. If she is like most women, she will quickly lose interest and move on to some other married man. Your husband will be appreciative as well. However, this method may also lead to irritating STD's and/or claims that he is the father of her child. In that situation, I recommend once again that you call Maury Povich.

Answer 3

First off... I WOULD NEVER EVER FORGIVE A MAN WHO CHEATS... That is the NUMBER ONE MISTAKE. There are many things a woman can forgive, but cheating is an absolute no no. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater, he will cheat again and no matter what you do or say, you will always feel like he will. So the fact that he works with her makes this 10 times worse. Second: I would confront her about this. Tell her that you are his wife and he wants to work things out and ask her to back off. Especially if she says she loves him, cuz then if she loves him she would want him to be happy, and if he wants to be with you, then she should understand. THIRD: if you cant let go of what he did, leave him and find someone who wont ever do this to you. Find a guy who has NEVER EVER cheated. I bet if you look hard enough, the man you are with now has cheated before you, on other women. If so, he will continue this life forever and NEVER change.

Answer 4

Why don't you go have a talk to her? Let her know that you know about her and that you view her as a threat to your marriage, family and home. Tell her that if you find out that she has not left "your" husband alone, that you will close her vulva with a staple gun. Then you need to tell your husband that he needs to make it very clear to her that he is not available, not interested and not going there... Be aggressive and stand up for what is yours, or she will not back off... She will run because she knows she is wrong and your anger is justified. Don't be ugly, just do not leave any doubt...

Answer 5

Have a talk with your husband about his feelings. Tell him that he has to be honest with you. You allowed yourself to forgive him so somethings gotta give. You need to find out if he has feelings for this chick. If he does, it is time for a temporary seperation.
Also, rather then giving into this woman, he needs to stand up to her and explain that he is a married man not interested in cheating. She should respect you because she is a woman herself. Us woman should be sticking by eachother rather then stealing (or trying to) other ones men.
The two of you will most likely need some marriag counseling and you'll have to find ways to get this chick out of the picture. I get the feeling this is only the beginning, so maybe you should talk to the woman about this.. or kick her ***, whichever suits you better :) Best Wishes.

Answer 6

He is a high school teacher and he should set things straight because the girl might think that he likes her too. This would be a big issue. He should be honest and tell her directly that he is a married man and he wants her to stop.

Answer 7

Why was he trying to make her think there are problems? What the fu_k business is it of hers???

She is "showing up" when he is out with friends because she is BEING TOLD where they will be........

If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't be asking questions on Yahoo Answers, I'd be looking for a place to hide the body.....

Answer 8

Did it ever occur to you that for a person to tell someone they love them that something had to be going on to get them to that point. Maybe the truth is he told her he loves her as well and probably feels guilty about it. If he is acting unhappy or different than maybe he is thinking about that person and really wishes he was with her. I take that by you saying he is not innocent he participated in something inappropriate if that is the case, he is not telling you she said it maybe it was him who said it to her first

Answer 9

The fact that he told you about her showing up, speaks for itself. Arrange to meet her for coffee and have a nice little chat to her, and explain, that your husband does tell you what is going on, and that she is making an absolute fool of herself. If she persists on chasing him, then your husband must chat to her. Easily sorted.

Answer 10

Alright people, she didn't say he cheated!


I would tell him to shut the girl down. Tell him that if you hear another word about her you will leave. If he loves you, the threat will be enough to ship him into shape.

Tell him that by having anymore than a business relationship with her is dangerous to your marriage.

Answer 11

Ignore her, if your relationship is good with your husband she is just obsessive and trying to destroy it, there will always be woman like that out there best thing is to act like your not bothered and totally ignore it, that way your confidence will show through and this will derail her.