I kept telling him i didnt want to get married but he and his mother kept pushing it so we got married 3 months ago and everyday i wake up thinking i did this for him, his family and my daughter and know i miserable.!!!!!
2006-10-05 03:56:03 · 14 answers · asked by b utter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hes a A+ father and a sweet husband but i feel that there is someone out there better suited for me,..
2006-10-05 03:57:23 · update #1
thanks everyone who gave thoughtful answers it helped me realize i live my family its just going to be harder coming from a broken home myself. to all the people who let stupid *** rude quotes ur the ones who really need the help..:)
2006-10-05 10:56:43 · update #2
If he is such a good man, what exactly is the problem.. I think you have issues with just being married, maybe you should work on yourself before deciding that this isnt right. You could end up leaving him and hooking up with a seemingly great guy only to find out hes a complete loser and you were better off. Figure out why you feel like this before letting it all go.
2006-10-05 03:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first three years of marriage is the worse I've heard if you can make it threw the first five then you'll make it. I am sorry that you are miserable but now that it's done and over with I would just do the best you can, make the best of what you have and make a comitment to be happy! Happiness comes from within. I don't think you're doing enough for yourself maybe you are not pampering yourself the way you should be. Do you have a job or take any classes, are you getting out of the house enough? You are only as miserable as you will allow your self to be, make your mind up that you will no longer be miserable and you do what ever needs to be done so that you aren't. It makes no difference if you're here or there you are miserable b/c you give into it! You would probably be more miserable without him in your life.
You also have to take responsibility for your actions if you really didn't want to marry him you would have dumped him then and simply just would not have done it so if you can do not resent your husband or your mother in-law any more for this they love and want you to be happy as well.
I did not want to get married but my husband pushed me, I wanted to wait at least another year or two but he insisted, he is also 11 years older then I and he didn't want to waste time, so with that we got married. I bought two divorce packets and kicked him out at least a dozen times but now I couldn't be happier and wouldn't change a thing, we have a great relationship we are best friends and it is really very nice, just give it some time, relax and be happy with what you have, set goals to get the things you want that you don't already have and do nice things for yourself. Good luck!
2006-10-05 04:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have never let others talk you into marriage if you didn't want to marry. Just think of what a divorce is going to do to your daughter after only 3 months of being married. Really, I'm sorry, but you should have thought about her before you married. A child's heart is going to be broken in this. You are an adult and you should have thought this through better.
2006-10-05 06:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should have never gotten married in the first place. If you didn't want to be married, you should have thought everything through rather then doing it for him and being pushed into a marriage.
If he's such a good father and husband, why don't you want to give him a shot? Go ahead and think someone out there is better but when you end up divorcing him for your own selfish thoughts, you'll find out he probably is the best canidate for you.
2006-10-05 04:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, take it from someone who knows, you do not want to wake you in the morning and look of at him and think 'Why did I marry you? I hate you'.. This is how I felt through my first marriage, My divorce was the best thing, I was luck though, no children with him... That is a sticking point.. There is not a law that says you have to be married to raise children though. I found my second husband and we have been happy for 10+ years. Think seriously about this though.... It is a tough step to take.
2006-10-05 04:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only 3 months and your'e already feeling this way? Not a good sign...sit him down and discuss how you really feel...he may not like it but honesty is always the best policy..and you sound very unhappy. Life is too short. You wont be doing your daughter any favours by staying married ...and unhappy marriage is an unhealthy environment to be raising a child.
2006-10-05 04:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why didn't you let go of him before you created a child to go thru the broken home syndrome. You need to grow up and take some resposibilities for your actions and decisions. Unfortunately alot of innocent people will suffer your childish behaviour. But perhaps you might want to do something different and think of what is best for your child before yourself. That really is what good mothers do!
2006-10-05 04:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are miserable because you married the father of your daughter. Why weren't you MISERABLE before you had the child. Grow up before you RUIN another life.
2006-10-05 04:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't want to get married, but did, that is your fault. You should have never married him. Marriage is supposed to be forever. That is just wrong!!! Now, your going to hurt him, because of your lack of responsibility.
2006-10-05 04:01:26 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's your own fault you gave in to their pressure. Who is to say you won't get on your own and give in to some one else. If he is a good dad and husband you have more than many women. You sound like you really don't know what you want.
2006-10-05 04:00:43 · answer #10 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋