like i said i care for him and all my family love him but all i can do is think about my Ex but my family would not speak to me if i were to get back together with him. I love my ex but i dont want to hurt the man i am with now!!
2006-10-05 03:54:49 · 15 answers · asked by nicolaandjonny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First contact your ex and chat, find out how things are going in his life, let him talk and check if he mentions anything about wanting to be with you, but let this come from him not you. If it appears you both still love each other go to your present boyfriend and explain that you can't give him the love he deserves as you are still in love with your ex and you feel he needs to find someone who truly loves him, not half heartedly like you are at present.
He will only be hurt in the short term, which is better as he will find love with someone else.
2006-10-05 04:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason he's an "ex" boyfriend. But honestly, you don't sound like you're ready to handle a relationship of any kind. If you don't love or respect your current boyfriend, then leave him alone so he can find someone who's ready. You've already hurt him by not being able to fully commit to him, he just doesn't know it yet. Guys have a way of picking up on it and he'll find out soon enough.
You haven't said whether or not your ex even wants to get back together with you. Does he, or is it just that YOU want the both of you back together?
Families may not be real impressed with a guy, but unless you come from a family of dysfunctional control freaks, there may be a good reason they'd disown you for going back to that guy.
Either way, you should give up the current guy and leave the old guy alone. You need to mature to the point where you can have a relationship with the right guy by being the right girl. Being the right girl means you know what you want, but are smart enough and kind enough not to have to hurt others to get it.
2006-10-05 04:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're most likely still grieving the loss of the relationship you shared with your ex, which is why, getting involved with somebody before you have overcome the pain from previous relationships, is not wise, nor healthy. However, to feel as if things are unsettled, or unfinished, is completely normal.
You owe it to yourself, and the man you are currently with, to be open and honest about everything. Put your cards on the table, and express yourself. In the long run, he will appreciate you for your honesty.
Maybe putting your current relationship on hold, is something you might choose to do. Just until you get your head around things, and you can make an unclouded decision on what step to take next.
Whatever the decision, do whatever it is your heart tells you.
2006-10-05 04:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to your heart...if you're not you will regret it. The ex relationship might not work out but you'll never know if you don't try. You don't want to end up cheating on the present boyfriend so go for it! Your family will stick by you as long as you are happy! They might love your present boyfriend but blood is thicker than water!
2006-10-05 03:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by Julie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do care for this guy, stringing him along making him think you love him is only going to make it worse when your true feelings come out. You cannot proceed to play with his emotions like this, be honest and tell him, he will respect you for this and you may stay friends.
With regard to your family, it's your life, if they love him so much let him live with them. Look after number one!!
2006-10-05 04:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Dean M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him up today! He advantages to carry close the reality. do not end it with him.. you'll completely sense sorry about it. yet theres a mission in case you probably did not sense any guilt. in case you do not completely love him and also you cheat on him and choose different adult adult males is there extremely a reason you adult adult males are relationship? in spite of the indisputable fact that the perfect suggestion i will supply is communicate with him and tell him. Its better suited he hears from you truly of by skill of a few different person.
2016-11-26 03:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by gyllenband 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go backwards... always go forward. You have to remember there is a PERFECTLY GOOD reason why you arent with him. THINGS DIDNT WORK OUT FOR A GOOD REASON. So dont put yourself through all that again, Stay on the path you are on. Good luck
2006-10-05 03:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes your EX something went wrong and maybe he didnt change so if it was bad the first time its gonna be worst the second time. if not just tell your boyfriend now how you feel and go back to your ex
2006-10-05 03:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you want him back go get him back but make sure its worth it because you don't want your family to get mad at you if you made the wrong choice so if you want your ex back take him back and forget your family.
2006-10-05 03:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by smile030498 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey gal,
Just go w what yr heart says n everything will be fine. dun do things just to please others, u will regret it in the end.
u r the one eventually going to spend w the guy the rest of yr life n not yr family
So u have to choose correctly so that it will be eternal happiness.
Ponder oever what i have said n u will be enlightened.
Cheers !!
2006-10-05 04:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by cuntlicker1388 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋