Okay, I know this sounds really childish, and I should probaly just get over it, but I cant get it out of my mind.
So I have been with my best friend since we were three, and we have always been together and have always had a very close relationship. We werent dating or anything, but we were really close. Well now my sister who just now met him decides that she is going to be his friend with benefits, and she knows I kind of like him more than just a friend. She practicly raped him on the bus today. And I dont know what to do about it because my friend obviously dosent care for me in that way. And since they have been getting into a relationship he has completly ignored me. He wont even talk to me any more. So should I just allow it to happen?
2006-10-05 03:43:12 · 21 answers · asked by moon_griffen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought older sisters were supposed to always be there for you.
2006-10-05 03:52:20 · update #1
And to think just last week she was trying to help me find ways to tell him how much I loved him.
2006-10-05 04:14:15 · update #2
I would suggest that you have a little talk with your sister and let her know your feelings. It would help you just to get this out in the open. You may not be able to change how he feels about you, but it may change the way you feel about things.
2006-10-05 03:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him, and tell him how you feel.
You never know he just might have the same feelings and was also scared to tell you.
But in case you are to scared to tell him face to face you can always write him a note.
Then depending on what he says you can go from there.
And i doubt you would want him after your sister practically RAPED him.
I don't know why sisters do this . I say it cause it happenbed to me too.
It hurts but life does get better.
Good Luck and don't stress out if it doen't work.
You will find someone sooner or later. But it will happen
BEST OF LUCK.
2006-10-05 10:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Solitaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been your friend to long to just let this go. Don't be catty. Just tell him how you feel. There is a good chance he doesn't know the extent of your feelings. And if I were you I would put some distance between you and your sister. She is being hurtful and she obviously doesn't care. Blood isn't thicker than water in this case. Just be open with him regardless. It' better he know than you regret not ever telling him.
2006-10-05 10:47:29 · answer #3 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should kick your sisters a$s for being such a skank. I've been in the same situation and I just told my sis he was off limits and it worked out. Does your sis know and not give a damn? Why do you think it's so obvious that he doesn't care for you in that way? Have you ever asked him? If you haven't, I think you should. I know it's hard and uncomfortable to put yourself in that situation, but in the future, you'll at least know you tried and what the outcome was, and trust me, that's so much better than wondering what would've happened or what could've been.
2006-10-05 10:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by mooo83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, older or younger?
Sounds like she is wanting to stop any kind of relationship you and he might have. Rivalry.... Not for sure, but probably she has him on a short string and is using their relationship to do this.... After she has dissolved your and his friendship, she will dump him for another... I have seen this happen.... you have something that she will never be able to have.. Keep in the wings and when she is finished with him... Be there, be the true friend to him that you are, he will appreciate it.
2006-10-05 10:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre sis should not have intruded on your friendship with this guy. that was so wrong. if i were you i would beat your sister up and have a talk with the guy because hes not acting right either. he just disses you because hes into your sister? in the words of stephanie tanner, how rude! what you and he had was way more important than a fling and he needs to realize that and find a girl to date thats not so close to the problem. i dont think you should date him either.
2006-10-05 10:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow it to happen? It doesn't sound like there's anything you can do about it. Too bad he's so shallow that he's started ignoring you since starting up with your sister, and too bad your sister is so disloyal that she would go after someone you care about. Maybe they belong together. They both sound like selfish, shallow, clueless people to treat you this way. Very sad.
2006-10-05 10:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking is the best way to solve this. It is going to hurt if you have to sit and watch someone else have a relationship with a guy who you like. Talk to your sister or talk to him. I know its a scary thing to do. But if you dont find closure you are going to just find hurt. Good Luck
2006-10-05 13:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dushyanthan D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister. Let her know that you have feelings for him. Hopefully the tow of you are close enough that she will back off. I would also speak to him and let him know how you feel see if he has any of the same feelings.
2006-10-05 10:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's his choice. I'm sorry! That must really hurt. A situation close to this has also happened to me, and it takes a while to get over. Good luck!
2006-10-05 10:45:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dayzi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋