My co-worker is cheating on her fiance of 10 years. I feel really awful. He loves her so much. She has been cheating with the other guy for three years and her fiance has no clue. I am tempted to tell him. What should I do?
2006-10-05 03:41:59 · 21 answers · asked by gigi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes they have been engaged for 10 years and it is HER who keeps changing the date. He is the one who is waiting on her. I just don't want him to come to me when he finds out. We are more than co-workers, we all hang out together.
2006-10-05 04:37:49 · update #1
That is not your business to tell. That is her life and she knows she is wrong, and will get hers in the end. You will be wrong for telling him. It's not your place. Even though she is in the wrong..
2006-10-05 03:44:30 · answer #1 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on your additional information that she keeps putting it off, my advice remains the same. If this guy can remain engaged to a woman for ten years who keeps putting off the marriage, he's obviously so lost and clueless that nothing anyone says or does is going to matter. I still say leave it alone.
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Let's get this straight. You're saying that these people have been engaged for 10 years? Are you serious?
Anyone who's been engaged THAT long is in a dead-end relationship. They may claim to be engaged, but after ten years this relationship is going nowhere. If this guy really loved this woman as much as you say, why hasn't he done the right thing yet?
I say leave well enough alone. It's none of your business, and this couple obviously deserve each other.
2006-10-05 03:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute I just reread this: this is her fiance of 10 years? They've been engaged for 10 years? Don't you think if he was so in love with her he might have taken the next step by now?
I wouldn't stay engaged for 10 years, holy cow 10 years!!
She's been doing it for 3 years? Maybe someone needs to drop a pamphlet on their desks with a list of places they can get help on it. 'Cause we're talking years here.
Maybe they're both waiting for someone to make a decision for them?
Seriously, I don't think cheating is the issue here
2006-10-05 03:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't tell. This guy is in denial. If he's been engaged for 10 years and she still hasn't married him, he has a clue that she isn't sincere in her professions of love. He probably has a clue she's cheating, too, but doesn't want to admit it to himself. If he asks you, you might just give him a "look" (a clue), but don't TELL. It's not your place. You have to work with his woman.
2006-10-05 03:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. Wish someone had told me. Would have saved my sanity and years of grief.
Women like that are like leaches. They suck all they can out of their faithful husband while giving their love away to strangers. When she's sucked all his blood, she leaves him to die. And if they have children, it's worse.
Selfishness destroys families. Believe me, you'd be doing her a favor too by telling him. Long term, they may be able to save the marriage by facing the issue. But, left to her own devices, she will just continue to pull away until the family is in ruins.
Finally, if she is unfaithful, she is likely not very kind to him. He may be suffering in many ways. Chances that she is very good to her husband while porking someone else are very low. But if he appears to be very happy and has no clue, he likely won't believe you.
Anyhow, I'd tell him.
2006-10-05 03:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jeffrey B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it...you could cause more harm than good!....if it has been going on for 3 years then he prob. has a pretty good idea & u just dont know about it!.....some times it is best to look at things like what u dont know dont hurt you......it could reck thios guy if u told him!.....plus maybe she will deside to tell him her self & its always better to hear it from her than someone else!....he may not even believe u if u tell him !....if u decide u have to tell him then tell her first ,tell her that u are going to give her one week to break it to him herself or else u r going to do it,becasue it is just wrong what shes doing to him!.....then stick by it if she dont tell him go for it,but be carful how u say it don't make him feel any more like an idiot than he's already going to be feeling !...this is a very touchy situation for u to throw your self into,be careful!
2006-10-05 03:43:55 · answer #6 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it isn't your place to tell him. I understand why you want to- because he is being hurt and doesn't know it. You could lose a friend and he may just be upset with you for exposing the hurtful truth.
On the other hand, I would want somebody to tell me what was going on. It would hurt, but I feel I would need to know.
Poor guy!!! This is the kind of behavior that gives ladies a bad name.
2006-10-05 03:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him but in an anonymous way, like leave him a note or try to obtain a phone number or his email address. Just tell him that you are someone who works with her and you have valid proof that she is cheating on him. He might approach her, but if shes convincing enough, I think he'll believe her. Love is blind. But at least you can say you've tried. Or if you're bold enough, tell him face to face.
2006-10-05 03:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mind Your Own Business
2006-10-05 03:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, definetly. Wouldnt you like to know if your fiance was cheating on you?
2006-10-05 03:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋