There is "one" co-worker at my company that no matter what I try, I just cannot stand to be around. Creepy, liar, disgusting, just totally worthless. "They" are a supervisor, not my supervisor, but think "they" are just "it". The majority of the co-workers cannot stand "them". I try to be nice but most of the time I am a little rude to this person and "they" just do not get the hint that I do not want to be social with "them". Work is one thing, I will always do my job but other than that just leave me alone. Sometimes I think the best thing for me to do is just look for another job but I do not think I could find another job making what I make. So I need to learn how to handle this situation. Any suggestions?
2006-10-05 03:23:26 · 9 answers · asked by MrsBear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, if you don't have to answer to them just stay away as much as you can. If they keep coming around say you're busy. If they continue to come around tell them you are trying to do your work and you really are easily distracted, could they please leave you alone at work...and, if they ever ask you to do something socially simply say no.
2006-10-05 03:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by applebetty34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure the majority of us have had a job where there were conflicts with other co-workers. You're luck in that it's not your direct supervisor, and just another supervisor in the company.
Do not let "them" affect you - your attitude, your job performance, your professionalism. If you do, you will be the one to pay the price, not "them." I'm not sure why the "powers that be" keep these type people around, but they do, so there "they" are. Minimize your contact with that person. If they approach you in the break room, excuse yourself with work to be done. Try your best to stay professional, but not rude. If it persists, then you may have to approach your supervisor. Be warned though, unless you have an outstanding and open relationship with your boss, it can backfire on you. Just try your best to put up with it, because even if you leave your job, you never know what situation you'll land in at the new one. Good luck to you - and stay strong.
2006-10-05 11:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a somewhat similiar situation and, I agree, it's not easy. If you want to stay at your job, all you can really do is work on doing everything possible to minimize your contact with this person and keep any intereaction with him or her as brief, distant and yet professional as possible.
If you trust your supervisor enough, you might ask him or her to please do everything possible to leave you out of any projects involving the Creep. And, obviously, if the Creep ever crosses the line, you should consider taking action -- either reporting his or her behavior to a trusted supervisor or reporting it anonymously.
Unfortunately, often the only sure cure for these situations is to leave your job and find another. That's not particularly fair to you, but sometimes the drastic option is the best one.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 10:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by David M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are doing good. Just keep being as polite and professional as possible, and avoid contact where it is not necessary. Don't let them spoil your day, or feel you have to be rude. If they are in a superior position to you, and they are obnoxious, they will have to be taken down a peg by someone to see themselves in others eyes, but it is unlikely going to be someone beneath them at work. Hang in there, and remember the only way to get respect, is to give it. If they are doing something wrong, they will be the loser. Not you.
2006-10-05 10:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the usual answer is to speak to a senior colleague and tell them something a little more substantual.
It doesnt have to be work related, just that this person is becoming a nuisance
Ideally, have a little diary.. that reminds you as well as them how frequent and upsetting it is, and they like times and dates so they can deal with this matter
If you have to quit after that, its constructive dismissal because the employer didnt resolve it
Good luck hun
I had a similar problem and my union handled it nicely
2006-10-05 10:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by miz Destiny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate! It sounds like you are doing all you can do, avoid them as much as humanly possible and just do your job. You could find another job, as you said making less, but who's to know you won't have the same problem with ~GASP~ your new boss!! So exercise some restraint and be yourself!!
2006-10-05 10:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Julie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to avoid her as much as possible. If she asks you questions then answer them with short answers. Tell her your busy all the time. Eventually she will get the hint. Good luck and bite your tongue!
2006-10-05 10:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do as that ameican woman done take a hatchet with U and cut it off
2006-10-05 10:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by anane653 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
piss in their coffee. You'll feel better and no one gets hurt.
2006-10-05 10:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Wiley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋