Iam at my witts end with my 11 year old, he does not follow directions, he is not truthful with me about anything, he's been stealing, talking back, throwing temper tantrums when he doesnt get his way and he also has been sneakly hurting our pets. He is ADHD and he does get medicine stricktly for school and school only and I also have him in couseling. I dont know what to do about his behaivor that has turned into a nightmare, I have always been good to him, have taken very good car of him, and he knows he can come to me about anything if he wants to talk. Is this normal preteen behaivor?
2006-10-05 03:08:00 · 8 answers · asked by Christina B 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
he needs attention!!! or there is something thats going wrong that is bothering him and he doesnt kno how to use his words!
2006-10-05 03:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shayla <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 11 yr old is going thru the same thing. My son is also ADHD as well as a few other mental illnesses. I think it is a phase. As for the hurting of pets, my son has done that to smaller pets like lizards and guine (spelling) pigs, but that was attributed to his schizophrenia. I am not sure what that would mean in a child without schizophrenia, I would discuss that with his counselor. The meds that you have him on for school only, I would look into Concerta or another extended release medication for ADHD. My son has done well on Concerta for 6 years and he takes only 1 in morning lasts all day.
2006-10-05 21:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by heartshaveears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not normal for this age but it is normal for a child at this age who has ADHD. My 13 year old daughter has it and can be a nightmare at times - she's improving. Medication and counselling has helped but she also needs lots of positive attention - focus on the good behavior and give him exhuberant praise, let him hear you brag about it. Reward him with trust when he proves he deserves it. Also, always remind him what you expect. It gets tiring to repeat yourself all the time but it helps. Everytime my daughter spends time with her two cousins we always go through the same litany of our expectations - they must get along, no fighting, the tow girls can't exclude the boy, any problems and they all get punished. It is amazing how much that works.
Praise him when he accepts responsibilty for his actions. My daughter knows that she will be punished less severly for an offense when she owns up to it and doesn't try to lie her way out. When we hand out the consequence we explain to her that it is what it is but it would have been worse (longer, more difficult) if she hadn't told the truth or argued.
2006-10-05 04:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 10-year-old has been diagnosed with ADHD. My wife and I gave her medication for school only, and we rode this merry-go-round of acting out, temper tantrums, etc. whenever she wasn't in school, such as on holidays or on weekends.
A friend of ours told us that we had to decide whether to maintain the medication throughout or to stop giving it to her altogether. She's not a physician or child care expert, but we thought we'd give it a try. Stopping the medication was not the solution; we had note after note from school, and had to pick her up several times in the three weeks we tried.
When we gave her a daily schedule of medication, we noticed a difference within a week. She's much better adjusted.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 03:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,he is rebelling.Pre-teens and teens alike often rebel.At that stage in their lives,they feel they are alone.They arent a child,but yet they arent quite old enough to be an adult.You need to sit down and speak with him.He may need medication not strictly for school,but home as wel or eliminate it all togetherl.As sad and scary as they may seem to you,i think it may be best.You have to speak with his counsellor about this.I know that it is his counsellor but if he/she knows how he is behaving at home,that can be something they can speak about and get to the bottom of.You also have to remember you are the parent,you make the rules and he must follow them.Be very strict with him,make sure he knows that if he decides he isnt going to get his way and throw a tantrue,or if he disobeys you that you make sure you have a punishment for him.Take one of his favorite activities,and if he continues the behavior,take another one.Sooner or later he will realise that you mean business and that you are not going to allow him to behave inappropriately,and that he must respect you.You cannot allow him to act out,because if you allow him to act out when he is with you at home,he will do the same elsewhere.Be strict with him,and it may be very hard,but it will be well worth it.You need to make him know who is boss,who makes the rules,and that he must follow them.In the real world,it is full of rules,and he must follow or he could end up in jail or prison which i am sure you do not want,so stop this behavior immediately.Good luck.
2006-10-05 03:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When children abuse pets, it is a sign that something is terribly wrong in their lives. Kids who torture animals usually grow up to be serial killers and such. Your son needs some help. He sounds like he is disturbed. Seek professional help for him before he grows up and does something terrible to you or someone else. You have my sympathy and prayers. Peace.
2006-10-05 12:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is for a child with adhd my nine year old is adhd we had to take him off meds because it made him worse so i have learned to deal with his behavior it is hard sometimes but not as bad as when he took meds he does much better now so good luck
2006-10-05 03:12:42 · answer #7 · answered by Waynes Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not normal. Send him to boarding school, or some sort of millitary school. They'll straighten him out.
2006-10-05 03:55:16 · answer #8 · answered by john a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋