I HAVE A LOT OF PEOPLE WHO OWE ME N THEY DNT PAY.N I AM REALLY IN NEED OF CASH RIGHT NOW .I CNT APROACH THEM PEOPLE TO ASK DEM MY MONEY IT IS DIFICULT Y?
2006-10-05 02:54:54 · 5 answers · asked by rampant 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Because you gave to them with the understanding that you don't really expect them to pay it back, which it good. Because you also understand that these people are probably the sort to be in constant need. You also may understand that these people you 'loaned' money to are usually the type to only have ~just enough~ to get by, and may have more finanical responsibilities than you (has kids, bad job, higher rent, etc..)and you feel squeemish about asking for it back.
Do yourself a favor, and ask for it back, but don't expect it back because you don't want to get mad and bust up a friendship over money (which is another reason you don't ask) but if you at least ask, you are more likely to get the money you need, OR they will know that "wow, she actually runs out of money, and maybe I shouldn't ask her for money next time I want something"
Either way you'll win. But you were right not to expect it back. Sometimes, it shouldn't be a loan, but kinda like "Hey friend, you need money I'm there. Cause I know when I need money, you'll be there for me." Good luck.
2006-10-05 03:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I exspect to get the money back, but if I can not afford it, they get nothing. I expect to get every penny back, and if I don't they get no more. I like to lend small amounts of money first and if they are faithful with that I would loan them more if I can afford it. When I say faithful, I don't mean 6 months down the road. I want them to tell me when they can pay me back, and expect them to tell me ahead of time if they can't and I respect that. It's difficult to ask them, because most of the time they give you a ring around why they don't have it, plus you shouldn't have to ask for it, it's their responsiblity to come to you, they came to you when they wanted it, and probably hounded you for it, and now I would be hounding them for it. Well just learn from your mistakes.
2006-10-05 04:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by WV_Nomad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They ask YOU because they know you won't ask for it back. Not to be mean, but face the fact that you have "SUCKER" written across your forehead. Once you realize that, you can correct that about yourself. I lent money one time and asked for it back-never got it. So..the rule I live by..I never loan money I can't afford to lose. I never loan money. When people ask me, I tell them "I'm tapped out, sorry" and then change the subject. Don't let them talk you into it either. Some people have sob stories for days!
2006-10-05 03:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lesleann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you think you don't deserve to be respected. JUST CALL and say "hey, that $20 bucks I loaned you last month, I gatta call it in...broke as a joke and need my IOUs cashed."
And for future reference...Never LEND money out. Either GIVE it away or say NO!!!
2006-10-05 03:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound like a nice caring person that likes to help others in need....I am the same way and when I need payment for my deed, I don't like to have to "bug" that person for it......People tend to take advantage of the thoughtfulness of others......God knows you have a caring heart and soul......Good luck to you honey!
2006-10-05 03:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by Donna 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋