Recently lost my mum to Cancer, life feels like it has stopped and cant make it better, does anyone know the best way to get on who has experienced this. Mum was my best friend and very young.
2006-10-05 02:54:29 · 5 answers · asked by rehad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi,
I know just how you feel, I lost my mother 3 years ago and sometimes it feels like just yesterday. I miss her very much and nothing or no one can take her place. What helped me get on with my life was the fact that she was my mother and there for me so I needed to be my son's mother and be there for him. I did not try to forget her or anything about her, I also was not afraid to cry, I prayed very hard not for her but for me. I took it day by day doing what I could and not piling to much on. As time went on I found that doing things that me and mom would do together makes me feel next to her. I have to go now thinking about mommy has brought tears to my eyes, but that is alright crying is good. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. PS 30:5
2006-10-05 14:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by MS. JAZZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my DAD my PAL my BUDDY last year to Cancer, it was all within two months of finding out he had it and the worst part my ***** of a stepmother kept him in an Ohio hospice somewhere and couldn't get him back to Chicago in time for me or my oder sister to see him but we talked on the phone everyday until that night.
I hurt hrorribly but when I think about how great of a parent he was and all the fun things we did together, I'm just glad I had that for 28 years & that helps me get through.
2006-10-05 10:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by princesstheruler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. I once had the same feelings when I lost my mother. I felt a void in my life. Believe me to this day I still hold my mother a permanent place in my heart more than the GOD himself. For me my mother is GOD. And he comes next to her.
It is very difficult to suggest a way for you to come out of the grief, as I know the feeling of loss of any body's mother will never ease with any suggestion. But I can assure you as the time goes , your mother will help you from the heavens to ease you out of grief by permanently settling in your heart , in your feelings, thoughts etc.,
My you have your mother's love and blessings.
2006-10-05 10:10:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about your Mum.
I think you should be gentle with yourself - when we lose a loved one it is earth shattering and really takes a while to deal with it. I don't think that we "get over" it, we just learn to continue living and as time passes, things do get easier.
My Dad, brother, husband, father-in-law and sister-in-law all died within 6 years (early 1989 to August 1994), and I thought I would go crazy.
If you can, join a Support Group in your community as it really helps to talk to others who have gone through something similar.
Also, talk to your doctor, maybe he can help you.
My heart goes out to you and you will be in my thoughts and prayers today.
God Bless!
2006-10-05 09:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
these are never easy losses to bear ... dont dwell on the loss ... remember the good times
it does help to start a journal and write her letters about the things you are feeling and doing in your life. as time goes on, you will find you dont need to write as often and it will also help you to sort through your feelings and work through the grief
2006-10-05 10:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋