Im 22 weeks pregnant with my first child and i am due for my 2nd scan next week. all thoroughout my pregnancy i decided i didnt want 2 know the sex of my baby, but now im unsure! let me know what u think. Do u think its best kept secret untill the big day or find out and be prepared? my partner wants 2 kno and recons he will be able to tell in the scan anyway!
2006-10-05 02:48:41 · 33 answers · asked by mummy to a lil prince 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I found out on my third and fifth pregnancy’s. My first was before modern scans and I wasn’t offered a scan with my second (11 years ago). I loved the idea of having a surprise but I loved the idea of going shopping and not having to buy white or lemon.
Just do what is right for you, and if your partner wants to know and you still don’t then ask the person doing the scan to tell him once you have left the room and tell your partner to keep it to himself no hinting.
Good luck.
2006-10-05 03:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is only my opinion and for me having a child brought many peoples thoughts and opinions out into the open. Ask 100 people and the answers will be all over the place... just wait to see what happens here.
Don't find out. If you do and one of you is slightly disappointed the next 18 weeks will have a little 'specialness' taken away. If one of you is really disappointed then it will be miserable. If you wait you can keep the excitement going and that's a bonus as you grow in size and discomfort.
Your partner may well be able to tell at the scan but I promise you that its a real 30% chance in being accurate. Good luck and I hope all goes well.
2006-10-05 03:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by Milo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 weeks pregnant and when we went for th last scan we were decided to keep it as a suprise. My husband was really temped to ask what we're having as it was our last chance, but we stuck to it and we still don't know.
I LOVE not knowing! It adds to the excitment of being pregnant. Plus when I'm pushing in labour, it's going to give me of an insentive to push him/her out, so I can see whether we have a son or daughter.
I also think when you find out what sex you are having you put an identity to your unborn child already. I also think when other people know what you're going to have, it's as if you've already had it. There's no excitment of, they've had a BOY, or a GIRL!
Anyway, I like not knowing and wondering what we'll be having - so I can't wait for the day to meet our baby. I love not knowing. I also don't want to go for one of those 4D scans, cos then you see your baby's face and then you know everything before its even born. My womb is my babys little home and I think it should stay that way. I don't want to spy on him/her.
Good luck with your pregnancy babes!! I hope you make the right choice! There's hardly anyone these days who wait. xx
2006-10-05 03:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Vickyandbump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a personal preference to find our the sex of your baby. Some people like to know so they can buy accordingly and for the excitement/bonding experience. Some people like to wait so they can enjoy the suprise. Ive had a baby of each sex and I couldnt tell from the scan what it was... at least not without asking !
If you are still unsure on the day, ask the ultrasonographer to write the babies sex down on a piece of paper and seal it in an envalope. Then you can take it home and decide later whether or not to open it !
2006-10-05 03:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by psycgirl25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We chose to find out and I was so glad. We were able to agree on a name, get all the decorating done, get the right clothes etc - so no rushing around once the baby's born!
But really its up to both of you and don't be forced into a position that's just going to make you feel unhappy. Its unlikely that your partner will be able to tell from the scan anyway unless he's a qualified sonographer, so the ball's in your court!
2006-10-05 04:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by babyalmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really a personal preference. My friend was unsure if she wanted to know or not too, so she had the ultrasound tech write down the answer and put it in a sealed envelope so that they could open it if they wanted to know. (they did open it eventually). And unless your partner is a dr. I highly doubt he will be able to tell what the baby is by looking at the scan. Heck even the ultrasound techs who do this every day are wrong sometimes.
2006-10-05 04:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by sooz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's such a dilemma! I didn't want to know with my first child (a boy) and he was such a beautiful surprise! But I did want to know with my second (a girl) because then I could relax and not have any more!
Ultimately it's your decision with your partner - my hubby said he saw the scan of my son's bits and bobs and knew anyway but didn't say anything! So maybe, if he can be trusted not to tell you, you should let him find out - then it will be a surprise for you when you have him.
Congratulations and good luck!
2006-10-05 03:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your partner know what he is looking for, he more than likely won't be able to tell, scans can be pretty blurry. I would find out and be prepared but not tell anyone. We didn't know until I was 36 weeks pregnant and I'm glad we found out. No one we no knows that we knew we were having a boy. I kind of think it is nice for everyone else to have a surprise!
2006-10-05 02:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i were you, I would want to know.... I am only 7 weeks pregnant and already dying to know! haha... when you know, you can have the baby room, clothes, toys and etc all set up! You can keep it between you two or yourself, and make a secret for everyone else. but to me, its just so much easier.... baby showers, you get the right colors, etc... unless you want a boy or girl to wear yellow... thats really the only color... a boy couldnt wear pink.... but its really up to you...but either way, your gonna find out the sex of your child in a few weeks when you deliver... so why not now?
2006-10-05 03:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by yahoocraze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I chose not to find out the sex of any of my children,there's got to be some curiosity and anticipation among all the pushing! Having said that,I can't deny that everytime time I had a scan I was so tempted to ask even though we'd both decided to wait.
2006-10-05 03:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋