He says she is a bad mom and we are just children and she should clean 8 hours a day plus cook and do dishes and we hate cleaning but dont think my moms bad and dont think she should do everything?
It makes my mom sad what should I do?
2006-10-05 02:24:14 · 14 answers · asked by Maddie H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
If you REALLY care about your mom, just get in there and help her all you can. Don't make a big deal out of it. Just keep quiet and do the very best you can. Sorry, but your dad's a jerk.
2006-10-05 02:33:06 · answer #1 · answered by bigbore454 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
your dad is a schouvinist pig. Thats a man who thinks a womens place is in the house cooking and cleaning and serving on him. You are old enough to help your mom clean around the house, im not your parents so im not telling you to do this but most teen girls help their moms around the house when they can. If you really want to make your mom feel better, tell your dad that you WANT to help your mom and that it would make you happy if you could help her out. It will probably make your mom feel really good to have you on her side and help her out even if your dad thinks you shouldn't. If your in middle school you know by now what you should and shouldnt do, use your judgement.
2006-10-05 11:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by isk8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you r plenty old enough to do chores and to help around the house. My son is 16 and he had chores by the time he was 7 years old. Now around the house he keeps his room CLEAN, he does dishes every other night as well as mows the lawn and shovels snow. I dont make him do alot but the little he does do takes stress off of me doing it! Offer to help more- your mom is NOT NOT NOT a bad mom! She wants u to learn things so one day u can take care of yourself and your family! Your dad is very very VERY wrong on this one!
2006-10-05 22:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dad needs professional help...
you are not too young to be helping your mom - I hate cleaning too... but I know it has to be done (although 8 hours of cleaning is insane some woman actually do it)
maybe he is stressed because of work and is taking it out on her... are their money problems at home?? if so be very careful with your own spending - take a bag lunch rather than buying lunch
I am afraid this is a problem between your mom and dad, really there isnt much you can do until he sees what he is doing to her and without professional help this is very unlikely... your mom needs to stand up to him..
watch the Wife swap shows - they are great!
2006-10-05 09:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by CF_ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have two boys age 6 & 3, they live with with me and have there own room , there for they have to clean it theme self. I don't think there to little to clean its about learing resonsablite. I still have to go in the room and help my 3 year old clean but my 6 year old does a good job all by himself.
They also have to help me clean there bathroom!!!
If you think your mom shouldn't have to do everything her slef, tell your dad you are not to little to help your mom out around the house. And clean up after your self.
2006-10-05 09:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by Tuty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you all have a right to be upset about that, it's not right or fair in any way. If you're in Jr. High School, you're definitely not to little/young to clean.
My advice to help your mom and avoid confrontation with your dad (or between your mom and your dad) would be to do as much as you can to help your mom (without complaining) when your dad isn't around. Maybe try to make it a game with your mom and siblings...a secret that stays between you, your mom and your siblings.
2006-10-05 12:28:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Independent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah your dad is a real jerk. Sorry about that. But since you have to deal with it, just try to help your mom clean. Keep your room clean, help with laundry, you might not like it and I don't blame you, but if you help her your dad will see that you are not too little to clean. Tell him it's part of your responsibility, and you ARE old enough to help around the house. Maybe he will shut up. If you love your mom, help her. She takes enough crap from your dad. It probably kills her inside that he talks to her like that.
2006-10-05 09:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you too little 2 clean?? I am 12 year old and i have many chores to do at home!! If i wuz you i would help out my mother lots more so father not yell at her. I think it is mean he does that.
2006-10-05 11:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No,She is not a bad mom.I think your mom should make your dad cook for once to give him a taste of his own medicine.I think your mom should find a new house or apartment and move away from him.I think your mom should yell at him back and say cook your own food.
2006-10-05 12:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Natasha♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone should help out with cleaning and cooking not laying it on one person. its tough I am 15 and clean my house buy myself no help. Dont make messes and then you have less to do.
2006-10-05 12:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋