A 16yr old guy going out with a 25 year old guy?

Question

What do you think?
Does it matter with love?

Answer 1

A 16 year old is barely through puberty and hardly knows love. It could be possible, I'm sure, but unlikely in the wrong run. Yet barring any feelings of love, it is against the law in many places in the world. This is sex with a minor, dangerous for both parties health-wise and risking a jail sentence for the elder guy. Any relationship should be held off until the 16 year old reaches the age of consent.

Answer 2

Yes, it matters; here's why. In basic physiology, the male brain completes development around the age of 19 or 20. At 16, the logical reasoning centers are still under-developed, and most decisions requiring logic are actually handled in the areas that also handle emotional response. This is why teens have such a tough roller-coaster problem with love and feelings during their teen years.

At 25, your brain is mature, and you can separate logical planning from emotional attachment.

A 16 year old man will be attracted to many people and will be willing to have sex with just about anyone! That's because they are acting mostly on instinct, not logic.

This sets up a situation where a 25 year old can take advantage of that lack of reasoning to seduce and sexually use a 16 year old who, in a few years time, would probably not consider that same person as a partner. A 25 year old can also pursuade a 16 year old to do things that they might not otherwise want to do, because "You'd do it if you really loved me". This might involve anal intercourse when it is not really desired, bondage, or other fetish behavior.

Many young men will think at 16 that they are in love with the older person, and the age difference doesn't matter. Actually, neither is true; the relationship will not - cannot - last; and the love that they feel at that time will pass, as their brain matures. Of course, it's pointless telling a young person any of this, because as I said earlier, they are incapable of separating logical reasoning from emotional.

It's for this reason that society has laws protecting young people; though to young people they just seem like another unfair restriction on their liberty.

In most states, 16 is below the age of consent, which means even if both parties are willing, the older person is committing an offense. A 25 year old willing to take the risk of jail time for sex is not doing so out of love, but out of self-obsessed desire and lust.

Answer 3

I certainly understand how a 25 year old might experience sexual attraction toward a 16yo. Some teenagers are remarkably beautiful.

Depending on the state, acting on that attraction could be a felony.

The ethics and the morality aside, I think that 9 years isn't an outrageous difference in age. Ten years from now when the older one is 35 and the younger, 26, will it make that much difference?

I can't help but wonder, however, what developmental dificulties would cause a 25 year old man to be able to sustain a relationship with a person who hasn't experienced enough of life yet to even know who and what he is. The next ten years of a 16 year old's life is about exploring and growing into an adult. The 25 year old should be pretty much through with that portion of his life.

Eventually, the 16 year old will lose interest and seek companionship with somebody new. Not because the love isn't real, but because as he gets closer to who he will be as an adult, his needs, desires, likes, dislikes, and ideals will be different. Usually, a different "partner" comes along with that type of change.

In my opinion, no 16 year old should be in a serious relationship with anybody... not his own age or a decade older. All young people should date a variety of types of people, ages, and groups so that when it comes time to make a partner choice, he has a better understanding of human nature and the kinds of people he clicks with and doesn't. The choice of a life partner shouldn't be made because of time sensitive availability. Every person has better options when there are more to choose from.

I occurs to me that a 25 year old man might not be in love with a 16 year old at all. He may be worshiping youth and innocense... and any boy with those qualities would do. A youth may be attracted to experience and availability, not necessarily the PERSON. Humans often convince themselves they are in love just because of strong sexual attraction... it makes them feel less guilty when they engage in sexual activity.

There is a reason it is illegal in most states for a 25 yo to engage in sexual activity with a 16 yo.

Answer 4

Well, it terms of age difference, I don't think this is really a problem. If you were talking about guys who were 26 and 35, who would care?

But where the problems may arise due to the fact that a sixteen year old, in my opinion, shouldn't be getting too involved in a relationship- they was a 25-year old can be. I think that kids that age should be concentrating on school, and trying to figure out where they want to be and what they want to do after school is over. Being involved with someone who already has their life underway may distract them from all the important decisions they have to make over the next couple of years.

This is just my opinion, but then again- that's what youre asking for here.

Answer 5

NO, the 25 yr old if he was a responsible or caring adult would understand the LAW that protects stupid Kids that think they are ready for love and relationships. The 25 yr old must be brought to the police or at least threatened with such. Its a dayum shame!

Answer 6

Yes it matters... a 25 year old has no business with a 16 year old

Answer 7

a 16 year old and a 25 year old have very different concepts of the word love, that is way to big of an age gap for being that young, the 16 year old might think it is love, the 25 year old is just stoked he is banging a young chick, by the way isn't that stauatory rape? or do you live in utah

Answer 8

First baby, you should make sure it is leagal. you wouldn't want to get this man you love into trouble would ya? If it is not, see if it would be if you got your parents consent. If not you really should stop seeing him. I know that sounds bad, but you wouldn't want to see him in jail over loving you. If it comes to that, be his friend and only his friend for a couple years till you are 18.

Second. i have seen this work out, so don't worry abotu your ages.

Answer 9

The fact that you're 9 years apart does not matter. But the fact that one is a minor, and the other is an adult DOES matter!

Answer 10

Two words--statutory rape.

And the 25-year-old is immature and insecure, or else he wouldn't be turning to teenagers. It is his responsibility to be the adult he is and say no to the 16-year-old.