I am going through a break-up after 9 years of being together........we lack intimacy and I guess we are both tired of trying........it is so upsetting thinking I can't fix it..........so confused.
2006-10-05 02:12:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey Tom, give yourself a break, you said you tried. Take it one day at a time. You put 9 years into your marriage, that's pretty good. You seem like a good man so don't knock yourself out, keep yourself busy and entertained. There is a light at the end of your tunnel you just can't see it now, we never can. I believe it's a norm for a guy to feel bad because he can't fix something, hey somethings just can-not be fixed no matter how hard we try. Email me if you would like to chat. Take Care of Your-self..;)
2006-10-05 02:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in a relationship for that long, you guys might feel obligated to stay together. The important question is do you guys have kids together? Married or just in a relationship? Are the lines of communication there? You need to open up to one another and talk things out to see if you can at least try to salvage what's left. But if you both feel the same that you both have love for one another but aren't in love with each other then it really is time to move on. It seems like you want to work things out but you just dont know how to go about it. Try to sit down and talk to her and if she's not interested in talking or working things out then you know that for your sake it's time to move onto bigger and better things. Don't try to salvage something that you know in your heart is not there anymore. It will just cause you more pain and heartache in the long run. Maybe you guys will be better off as just friends. But just try and talk things out first to get a perspective of where you both stand with the future.
2006-10-05 09:22:54 · answer #2 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya if both of you put the guns down have a good lone talk to see whats up you both find out what the other needs are to work this out 9 years is a long time don't do the split thing talk this out i know you 2 can make it work good luck to the both of you
2006-10-05 09:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad when you can't fix a relationship. Have you tried counseling? If you are committed to fixing it, tell your partner and hopefully you will be on the same page. A good relationship needs constant work. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 09:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iT'S HARD, BUT LOOK AT IT THIS WAY. dO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE NEXT 29 YEARS OF YOUR LIFE LOOKING FOR INTIMACY THAT YOU HAVEN'T HAD IN THE LAST 9.. IT'S A GIFT. MOVE ON.
2006-10-05 09:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. You should try to keep close to family and friends who will support you through the emotions that you'll go
through. You're in my thoughts.
2006-10-05 09:21:08 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋