whats your best advice for victims of bullying?

Question

be strong, be confident etc (check my bulying site, its my profile name)

Answer 1

This is a very good question as "bullying" should be something each parent, guardian, and grandparent should become aware of if they have school age children as bullying is becoming worse in today's society.

One does not ignore bullying, as a person above suggested. It should be addressed immediately as It hurts the child and can have long term consequences if not remedied facing them from childhood through adults.

A child should definitely let their parents, teacher, principal or other trusted adult know they are being "bullied". If the child does not come to his/her parent or guardian to let them know, there are some signs a parent/guardian could watch for. Bruising or bumps are probably the main thing, but there are also sighs which are less obvious including:

inventing mysterious illnesses to avoid school (for example, stomach aches, headaches, etc.)
missing belongings or money
sleeping problems
bed-wetting
irritability
poor concentration
unexpected changes in routine
problems with schoolwork

I'm adding a link below which hopefully will help parents, guardians, or grandparents in order to become aware of signs to look for in a child who is being bullied and how to help their child.

I hope this information helps.

KIDS HEALTH - Bullying and Your Child
http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/bullies.html

Answer 2

As a martial arts/self defense instructor, I see many children come in with bullying issues, and unfortunately most people do not know how to deal with bullies, nor are most schools willing to deal with them. The best way to stop bullying is to have the bully removed from the situation in the first place. Easier said than done, and it must be done in an intelligent manner, where no one gets hurt, and the bully is none the wiser. Telling a child to not go anywhere without 3 or 4 friends might seem like a good idea, but it is not always feasible. And what if they don't have friends? To form a small, protective "gang" may exascerbate the situation - the child brings friends, the bully gather friends, so on and so forth. Telling them to ignore the bully won't work either - how many of you were told, just pretend something isn't there and eventually said thing would disappear? I'm guessing that idea worked for very few of you. Telling the child to tell an authority figure (teacher, etc) that they are being bullied has the potential to be a great start to removing the problem, but it has to be approached in such a manner that the adult does not perceive the child to be a "tattler", or "whiner", but that they are a concerned little "adult" trying to come up with viable solution to a problem, and if done properly will elicit help from that adult. Chances are, that if the person that is doing the bullying is not picking only on one child but many, and most likely, the adults do not particularly like this bully either, so forming a union between the bullied children and the adults in charge will aid in the removal of the problem. Last but not least, violence does not end once the child becomes an adult, and violent crimes are on the increase - everywhere. I highly recommend investing in a good self defense program. Look for a school that does not promote aggressive behaviour, these may lead to an inflated sense of confidence (note - it is up to you to find out if the one you are looking at is, there are some very good schools out there), which, while this works well in a sports arena, in real life, may get the child seriously injured, or worse. Instead, look for one that promotes intelligent solutions. Research the schools available out there, there are many highly qualified instructors, willing to help your child stop the bullying. Please note that as with most things, quality does not usually come cheap - but if you think your child is a worthwhile investment, look for the best school you can afford. Children should not have to live in fear, from anyone.

Answer 3

Talking about it really helps, holding it in does not. I was bullied all through school from kindergarten until the end of highschool, I actually dropped out of highschool so it would stop and got work, two years into work my worst bully gets a job there and begins doing it again and got everyone to join in. It sucks, bullies are cowards. I went and became a professional at Tae Kwon Do and now no one starts anything with me. Show no fear also. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 4

You seek help from a trusted adult! Never ignore it though! If you do not show the bully you are bothered by it even though you are they may leave you alone! Depends on the bully really. But you should seek help from an adult who can help you stop the bullying!!

Answer 5

if the bullying gets out of control, tell a teacher and your parents about it. if that does not help,get the police involved.

Answer 6

Yes, exactly as you put it: Be strong, confident etc.

Answer 7

Report it to whomever...and if it still doesn't stop and if its serious enough file for harassment. No one deserves to be bullied.

Answer 8

stand up to them in always,otherwise you will dye a million times.and when you do stand up to them for the first time yes you will be scared but you will also feel very proud of yourself.the one who bullies is the SCARED one.trust me i know.
good luck

Answer 9

Take revenge in years to come. Sweat on it for now.

Answer 10

Hit back