Be honest, and tell me the truth! 8 months ago, I came out to my mum of me being gay, and she is full on catholic.. and she thinks im Disgusting and I'm not going to be successful
2006-10-05 01:53:48 · 21 answers · asked by Alfy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I am not scared. Why should I? It is how you feel, and how you decide to live your life. YOUR LIFE.....
On the other hand mom's situation is a bit different. They all want us to be the top at the school, very succesful at work, get married and have kids who they can be proud of. I do not think that you will be able to change her thoughts. But the life is yours.
2006-10-05 01:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pinar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually, I think it's just a case of fear of the unknown. But in this case, there may be more than that adding to the pressure. I think in this case, it would have more to do with her conditioning as a Catholic, that it is some evil thing...this, and the fact that she feels responsible for not doing something right in your up bringing. She also now feels that she must keep your secret...a constant lie, and therefore, another sin.
It may take a while for her to come to grips with the concept that she didn't do anything wrong, you didn't do anything wrong, you are who you are, and you all have to realize that "it is what it is"...and then go on from there.
As far as the last part goes, you will be sucessful if you are happy...no matter what sex, color, or whatever of your partner in life, you have to be happy there before anything else will work for you.
2006-10-05 09:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, no offense but your mom is pretty fcuked up for saying something like that... Second yes, I'm slightly afraid, primarily because I understand that there is an exclusive homosexual culture that I am not apart of and do not understand - its obviously isn't something I ammeant to understand but that in turn makes me a little afraid. Let's keep it in perspective, its still very new for our society to accept gays, I dont think its right, with equal rights and all, but its still unprecedented and sorta "taboo". In a couple of decaes I could see the world coming around but For now, ecspecially in the south (where I live), the homosexual culture is unjustly shuned and viewed as unorthodoxed.
Sorry dude, you will truly experience something that is new territory for the world (or at least good ol america), just think of yourself as a trailblazer into the future, stay strong and talk to your mom, no matter how much she tries to belittle you and who you are.
~Cheers
2006-10-05 09:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dante 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry your mom feels that way. All you can do is continue to show her that being gay doesn't change who you are and what you can accomplish in your life. There are many successful people in the world who are gay, just as there are many less successful people who are hetero. Be proud of who you are.
2006-10-05 08:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by schoolot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone be afraid of homosexuals ?
Sorry I obviously do not comprehend the crux of your question.
I don't approve of homosexuality because God condemns it, but I have no fear of any homosexual. It doesn't make sense.
I am a Mother, and I am so sorry that your Mother had such a reaction. Did she say that she feels you are disgusting, or the acts are disgusting?
2006-10-05 09:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by heresyhunter@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not religious. I'm not scared of gays etc, but I do not like them.
I do not have a phobia (fear) of gays, but I hate the way that they have parades through the streets, and have to tell everyone that they are queer. You don't see straight people doing that (they would probably be arrested if they did), so why should gay people be allowed to do it?
However, having said that, I don't see why it should have any impact you being "successful". Obviously, you won't be a fit parent; gays should not raise families, as they fail to realise the torment that their "child" will go through.
I think your mother is disappointed because you won't be passing on your (and her) genes to the next generation, which kind of defeats the object of her having children in the first place.
By the way, I strongly disagree with people who object to homosexuality on religious grounds; I believe that God loves us all, no matter how we are made or what we do. If God really dislikes queers, he would wipe them all out.
2006-10-05 08:59:59 · answer #6 · answered by shoby_shoby2003 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hi. I am a lesbian and I just want to pop in to say I hope you are doing ok with this rejection. I know it hurts. And it is all because of fear. You are right about that. Ignorance always breeds fear, and fear always leads to hurt. We need to break that cycle and see each other for what we are: human beings in one family.
2006-10-05 08:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-05 09:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared...um..no. You guys aren't monsters, for Christ's sake. Do what makes you happy as long as you're not hurting anyone in the process.
2006-10-05 09:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not near as scared as I suspect you were in comming out. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-05 09:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by chickenger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋