Have you ever felt like this ........?

Question

I was a total carefree person and I trusted anybody and everybody. The only thing I was responsible for was for myself.

Since I became a mother

I have no friends, I feel that I need to predict what is going to happen so it wont happen. I dont trust anybody and if a stranger looks at my son, all these ugly thoughts go through my head. I feel I have to provide my son with a perfect life, I just dont know how.
The responsibility is overwhelming and sometimes I think im going nuts.It seems as the world suddenly took a turn for the worst.

I love my son dearly its the people I stopped trusting.

Answer 1

Its perfectly natural to be protective(sometimes over protective)of your children, as for not having any friends what happened to the ones you had before you had your baby?
If you have serious issues with meeting people and getting to know them the best place to start would be a mother and baby group(ask your GP if there are any local to yourself) where I am sure you will meet lots of other women even men who share your views, good luck with your problem and don't worry you are not the only one sweetheart. I as a father of a 5 yr old daughter dread it when other people come into contact with my kid, only because nowadays you don't know whom you can trust. But how I get my head round it is by thinking it is a very small minority of people who harm children, most of us just love them, and try to compliment others on how lovely their children are with no malice in our hearts, once again good luck with meeting new friends, take care x

Answer 2

This is understandable, im not a mother, but you are and of course the responsibilities are going to be harder now that you are a mommy. There are ways to make friends, go join a gym (if you find time, most gyms have daycares) go to lunch with some old friends. Dont predict whats going to happen, because you cant, so theres no sense in worrying about what you THINK is going to happen, because chances are, its not going to be like that. New mothers sometimes stress about things that arent worth stressing about. Your son will have a perfect life, love him, take care of him, help him out, keep him safe, thats all you can do. New mothers sometimes get depressed, its a known fact, but dont let that happen to you. Get out, take your son for a walk in his baby carriage,go to the gym, watch home and gardening channel ( i love those shows!) If you still think your depressed after a couple of weeks, try going to a couselor, it really helps when you can talk to someone else about your problems and they will actually listen. Good luck, and dont worry you and your son will be PERFECT!

Answer 3

When I became a Dad, I remember driving my son home from the hospital and thinking everyone in the world had become terrible drivers overnight. I think when you become a parent, that God given protective nature kicks in, that is part of your role.
Providing your son with a perfect life is an unattainable goal. Instead, I try to establish safe parameters that my children can grow in, learn in, and even get bumps and bruises in from time to time. This is a dangerous world, and there are real fears but you can't live in paranoia; that isn't healthy for you or your kids. My recommendations are: be vigilant and arm yourself with knowledge about your child, your community and any potential dangers. Keep building a strong relationship with your child so that they are able to express any real or perceived dangers with you, and you have open access to their heart. Place them in God's hands. I pray over my kids each night, that God will keep them safe and enable them to make a difference in this world.
I have a feeling you will do just fine.

Answer 4

Hey Evana you sound just like a good mom should over protective always on the defensive and uncertain of your world
As your son matures and you get used to these feelings you will settle a bit but as for friends you need adults in your life look at finding some other moms to get to know .
Evana your doing just fine sweety just fine.

Answer 5

welcome to the life of parenting!! It takes time but it does get easier.I was and still am to a point the same way!!!! I lost most of my friend who were so excited that I was pregnant in the first place...I think it is because you no longer can just get up and run and go out ...You will find true friend.I would suggest going to a play group and meeting some other parents because then not only are you experiencing something new and meeting possible friends but so is your child ...GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Yes its called BEING A MOM. We all feel that way. Of course its our job to make sure they are taken care of,,but we cant be there for them all the time. My sons best friend,,went on a family vacation and went riding on one of them 4 wheelers,,,,and killed himself when he crashed into a tree,,,he was only 14 yrs old. His mom was the best mom on earth,,,but things happen that you cant explain,,and you cant shelter them from everything. All you can do is do the best you can. Love him and be there for him the best that u know how. Try and not get stressed over every little thing,,,or you will drive yourself nuts. IM SURE YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB WITH YOUR SON.

Answer 7

I was like that with my first child. Believe me it does get easier. You are not going to be a perfect mom. You are human. The best thing you can do is relax and enjoy every second with your son. They grow up too fast. As long as he grows up knowing he is loved that's all that matters. Good luck.

Answer 8

this happens to people when they mature.the best thing to do is to get new Friends that have kids and you will not feel the way you do.have friends that have things in common people change.and so do your wants and needs in life.

Answer 9

its called being a mom and you are perfectly normal. with all of the things going on in the world you have to be like that.

Answer 10

You just need to free yourself cos your child need to grow around people so he can understand himself and knows who he is