are you anti or pro divorce??? and why. defend your answer!!?

Question

this will be like a debate

Answer 1

At the time, I am anti-divorce. I think that marriage is not something to be entered into lightly, and you should have a full understanding of what you're getting yourself into. I also think that any problems (excluding murder and drug addiction) can be worked out and the marriage saved. You marry the person that you love. Your love does not change over time. YOU choose to change.

Answer 2

Both. Much of the blame for the high divorce rates can be attributed by the lack of being prepared for the commitment of marriage. Regardless of what people say about the Biblical aspects of marriage, the further that we get from these principles the more the divorce rate seems to escalate. It is very difficult for two people to blend together when their only concern is themselves. When you enter into a union with this attitude it is doomed from the start. It is hard to maintain a relationship when the core is based on self gratification or lust. After the MAGIC wears off and the sex turns cold, or physical ability inhibits, you need to be able to approach and live with the other on a deeper level and with more understanding. Unfortunately we as a society value looks and success over a lasting relationship. Yes I'm anti-divorce, but realize that the preservation of a relationship based on the superficial, divorce is inevitable.

Answer 3

I am Pro and I believe this because some people are dangerous to one another and are better separated from each other .I know that under the eyes of the church it is a bad thing and it shows you as a weak person unable to cement a relationship but why should a couple cause each other pain and suffering if all it takes is to part company when both are in favour . I do how ever think that it is far to easy to call it a day and file for divorce .
marriage is partner ship and in so being is a contract that needs to be nurtured and coerced into life .

Answer 4

I'm anti and pro divorce. Im only pro divorce when your partner has committed adultery because of the scripture found in Matthew 18:9. Other than that, I am anti divorce.

Answer 5

I am both anti and pro for divorce. I believe that if you marry a man or a woman, you are agreeing to be bound to them for life. However, there are certain instances when divorce is allowed. You don't ever cheat. If you cheat, you are asking for a divorce in no uncertain terms. If you abuse, you are asking for a divorce in no uncertain terms. I don't believe that people should divorce because they have fallen out of love. If you think that you have fallen out of love, then do something to fall back in love. As long as you are together, and if you will allow yourself to become immersed in the reasons why you got married in the beginning, there is always room for more love. I don't believe that people should get divorced because of in-laws, make the in-laws stay in their place. You have to make yourself the center of your spouses life, and vise-versa. Besides cheating, abuse, and being in the penitentiary for more than 10 years, there are no other valid reasons for divorce. Remember that abuse and cheating can come in many forms.

Answer 6

I do not think anyone is "pro-divorce". No one gets married with the mindset that they will end up divorced. People get married because they love someone, and believe that that person loves them back. They enter into to marriage with a promise to stay together forever. Unfortunately this can sometimes be a promise that can just not be kept.

Divorces are more common today because, I believe, both parties have respect in themselves and are clear about what they will and will not allow. Which is as much a good thing, as it is a bad thing. A marriage is a partnership, which means both parties have a responsibility to fulfil a particular role, whatever it might be. Both partners must be happy with the role they play, and the role their partner plays. Naturally over time these roles may change, but there still has to be that same understanding of each other and what they provide. I think there can be a tendency to, over time, fall into a pattern that could end up being unhealthy. Perhaps starting out as equals, and ending up unbalanced. Keeping that in mind, I do think people can be blinded by idealism when they begin a relationship or marriage, and have unreasonable expectations of themselves and of their partner. This will always lead to problems, and with that state of mind I find that people can be too willing to let go, and give up, simply because it isn't "perfect".

Saying all of that, sometimes things just do not work out, no matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions were. There is nothing worse that being with someone you are not in love with, or who is not in love with you. It is wasted time, and a wasted life. Children are not glue, and they will not magically make something work. By staying together "because of the children", you teach your children to settle on the one thing they shouldn't. Children learn how to behave, how to express themselves, how to work, how to love, how to live, and how to treat others by what they see at home. No one should show their children that making due is okay, and because of that alone, divorce is the right things to do. Happy parents divorced, are far better than miserable parents married.

I am married, my husband and I will be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary in January, and neither of us has ever been divorced. I am also not from a divorced home, but I have seen it in others around me. I can't imagine being divorced, as I cannot fathom my life without him. But as I know what it feels like to love someone, and be loved in return, I also know that I would not want to spend my days without love. My love for my husband may change, and if it were to leave, I know I would work to get it back. But after all that we've been through, and after all that we have felt for each other, if I could not get it back, I would not be able to stay. I would rather walk away if I had to, then ruin what was good about us by staying in something "just because". I do not think this makes me "pro-divorce", I think this makes me realistic and honest with myself.

Answer 7

I am pro
One i believe that people should be able to get a divorce becuase sometimes you are in a bad situation. You fall in love but that person is hurtful or meant to you and you need to get away. Also you just may not love that person anymore so yes it happens

Answer 8

I am all for divorce but, i believe its all to easy to get one. I don't think a divorce should be granted until both parties have exhausted every possible means of saving the marriage.

Answer 9

I am pro
don't need to defend my answer
just look around you
the truth is
without divorce we will have more crime (because couple will kill each other )
or more suicide

Answer 10

I am pro divorce cause there are circumstances where u have no other choice but to get out. Sometimes there is abuse and you have to divorce.