2006-10-05 01:42:11 · 12 answers · asked by usmc2209 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You must put to rest your relationship for another once you marry. It is unfair to your new bride. How would you feel if she came to the alter still pining for another man. Sleeping with you and thinking of another man. When things get difficult thinking of another man? You made a choice. Either stick with it or let your fiancee go so she can heal and make a future with a man who will love her and only her the way he promises the day he gets married.
2006-10-05 01:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to sort out this situation. If I were you I would tell your fiance that you need a little time to think about the future. You do not want to get married and be thinking that you missed out on an opportunity with Bethany. It will just cause heartache in your marriage. Marriage is a big step and you should marry a woman that is going to make you happy. It might not work with Bethany as well if you are not with her right now. I am just guessing but I bet Bethany is your first love and it is always hard for a guy to get over his first love. Why be wasting the other girls time when you are actually thinking about Bethany it really is not fair to her.
2006-10-05 02:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, choose one thing, bethany or the prospective wife. 18 months is a long way. If you cant get back bethany then forget it but if you can go for her and start all over again. However I am looking at this as if you are crying over spilt milk. So go ahead boy and forget bethany, can you?
2006-10-05 01:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by havemercy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you're in love with your ex and you don't have the balls to tell your current fiance' that you don't want to marry her??? Your marriage is doomed from the start and you will end up hurting this woman if you don't love her. Call it off right now! And look up Bethany and see if there is any hope. Tell your fiance' the truth; that you don't want to start off a marriage built on a lie. Now be a man and do it!!! Godloveya.
2006-10-05 01:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was your first love, you will always care about her.
You need to stop and think about what you are doing.
Do you love your fiance and want to spend the rest of your life with her? Do you want to raise a family with her? What do you both want for the future? If you can't answer these, then you are not ready to get married. Marriage is a big step and shouldn't be taken lightly. Good luck in whatever your decision might be.
2006-10-05 01:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest.
Dont marry the other girl. If you still have the feelings for your ex the marriage would never work out. I know from experince. It will never work.
And also if you care for the girl your with now I would maybe take it alittle slow bc you need to lose the feelings from your ex. You would always think in the back of your mind, "Oh what if I married her what would it be like." Dont try to compare them if you do marry.
2006-10-05 01:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by SouthernGal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for her you need to figure out what you want before you get married!!! Do not make a mistake by marrying if you are unsure!!! IT is not fair to either of you!!!!
2006-10-05 01:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 Months !!! are you saving up or what ? thats a long time... Forget the Bethany bint..concentrate on saving up for that wedding..
2006-10-05 01:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you need to resolve before you get married if not you will have problems later.especially if she still has feelings for you.
2006-10-05 01:51:35 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are naturally polygamy. in other countires you can marry more than one wife. but had to treat them all equal. if you buy this one a car, then you had to buy the 2nd one a car as well.
2006-10-05 03:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋